I have to think that one of my cheeseless tunnels has to be my undercutting questions or comments. To me, this is the hardest habit to break. I think it is suspicion that makes me do it. The second I say it, I know what the reaction is...I KNOW this is not going to get my EX back....Have stopped that for one week now...definitely has to be forever a change though.
Wow, as usual you are saying the tunnels I had been inadvertantly going down. We are not divorced, or seperated yet, and if I went home and pretended there was nothing wrong my wife would "pretend" there is nothing wrong. That is partially my fault because when something upsets me, usually something I read in an email or post I was snooping through, I have been taking the advice of Backing off.
However, the snooping, the mistrust, the over analyzing, are all things I do and they only make me miserable because of the things I read and think that she does on purpose. So what if she shuts the door in the morning while dressing when I am still in bed. Maybe she is trying not to wake me rather than trying to hide anything pleasant I might see. She is not having a physical affair, but is obsessed and fantasises about a celebrity to the point of being offensive to me but she is not going to change she says. If I ignore it, and act interested, then everything is fine. But seems like everynight I go down the tunnel and read an email I should not read and it offends me proving she would rather be away from home than home with me and my child.
Thanks for venting and pointing out how obviously stupid I am being going down that tunnel of no cheese every night.
Just cant stop the cheesless tunnel of reading things I should not and obsessing over her contact with her internet freinds. However, it is constant and does not EVER stop. Even during dinner, she would answer the phone and talk if it rang.
