I was starting to think I was the only person in the world with this problem of having a marriage I want to keep but problem with no sex. Started surfing the net and ended up on site for lesbians, don't ask how. But they have their own help and advice site which I found helpful although I am not gay. But all relationships seem to have similar problems. It made me want to do something about the lack of sex. I began to feel I could change things and could maybe improve the relationship. More surfing led me to Michelle's book and also another good book called Resurrecting Sex by Dr David Schnarch. I also recommend this esp if you have problems with the sex itself. By now I feel quite positive and hopeful I can change. There is so much support and advice I never knew existed. I am really grateful to everyone who has unknowingly helped me so far. Including the lesbians!!
Hi Yes I learned a lot from the lesbians. They call this problem Lesbian Bed Death! It can seem that way but perhaps it is more helpful to think of it as a coma. Keep talking to your partner because one day they may wake up!
