Having both your parents pass is heart wrenching. Yet to pass within minutes of each other does have a level of comfort. Together in this life and now on to next, together.
I am glad you and your brother are on the mend. My goodness, what a hellish time to endure. And you sound like much more than just enduring it. You my dear Irish will pick up the pieces and continue. You are that kind of man.
My thoughts have been with you since reading your post. I suspect much of the needed efforts when love ones leave this mortal realm have been completed or are underway. The following steps, the leading, continuing to live and move forward will ease from its present struggle.
I imagine your daughters were quite worried with all falling ill. Their sadness, joy, relief, sorrow will be confusing for a while I suspect. I know they are strong and stable and capable. For I know their Dad and he is quite a role model.
Their Mom, XW, is a very lost soul. Still, she is incapable of empathy or reaching out. It is little wonder that she could not console or comfort the girls during this time. She is running. She cannot even console herself, never mind anyone else. Such a sad and lost woman.
I do understand and empathize with the bitterness and hatred towards XW expressed by the girls. Their feelings are valid, necessary, healthy, and a very needed part of their grief and loss. Irish, it falls to you, to inspire them to let go and be better not bitter. Forgiving and compassionate.
That is nothing new. You are an amazing Dad. And you and the girls will (and still) flourish; I have no doubt.
My deepest condolences to you and your’s.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
my dear friend I am so very deeply sorry to read this post from you! yes, your parents are together and that is the only blessing here. What a horrible, horrible tragedy for your family. I am happy that you and your brother are recovering well and that everyone else in your household is ok.
as for your MLCr ... no words.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
So very sorry for your loss, Irish. This is truly heartbreaking news. Thank goodness you, your brother and your kids are okay.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
