Ginger if you look like Kinda Alloush then sign me up! If this is what you look like you are pretty damn good looking and shouldn't have trouble on dating apps. I don't know your whole history, but I read your threads from time to time. Maybe you are trying too hard and getting spun up? Just relax, enjoy the process as best as you can, I know dating sux (esp online dating), but it could happen when you least expect it. Also, have you, M, or anyone else tried Hinge. I had no issues snagging tons of dates off that app and at the time it appeared to be a relationship focused app.
Sometimes you have to keep sifting through mountains of dirt to find the gold.
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Sorry guys, I'm not picking ANY guy with a picture with his shirt off, "tasteful" or not. Think twice about who you'll be attracting. To me it just says either "Just looking for a roll in that hay" or "I'm really full of myself".
Now, maybe you could sneak it in if it's a picture of you in swim trunks jumping into a lake or something, but otherwise, leave a little something to the imagination and try not to look like a douche.
If I had to choose a celebrity look alike, that would be a comparison but I no where near that beautiful .
I can have guys easily. For sex. No one seems to take me too seriously, unfortunately. They all start off by trying to have sex with me. Any guy I bring to start to talk to, it becomes sexual.
It’s really annoying as an almost 40 year old mother. I just want a cool guy who wants me for my kind and heart first, then sex follows. I’m actually a pretty intelligent two man with a great mind and heart. And what made me fall for M was that was what he told me from the beginning and ongoing.
So he texted me at 10:30pm Last night “ just got home from playing basketball, hope you had a great day”
I texted back a little later when I was up with the song. “ it was a long day, I’m glad tomorrow is Friday. Hope you had a great day and have a great weekend too” I got a blushing smiley emoji this morning. That’s it.
I think it might be the slow fade. Or I don’t know what it is. But he certainly isn’t keeping my interest at all.
This is almost identical to the texting between S and I at the beginning.
How is this not meeting your expectations?
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Obviously he doesn't follow the rule about the phone of for setting dates. Hard to say so again I would just go with it until you are no longer interested.
When the doc and I met on match she texted me her phone number and essentially said....hi there, now you have my number with a thumbs up emoji. She was essentially saying was now you have my number so good luck, let's see what you do with it. She didnt start reaching out proactively until after our 2nd date.
Exactly. I’m like the doctor. Be direct. If you are interested, show it. Be direct , follow up your really nice time comment and say I would like to see you again. A text a day with no date follow up is not attractive.
I like a man who takes some action. Who makes a decision. It shows interest. He is doing absolutely nothing to keep my interest at this time. The ball is in his court to make a move and he’s dribbling it around. Very unattractive do me. And I guess that’s just me.
Yup and that's ok......early on she was very and to the point, and didnt mess around.
So you can either do one of two things. You could just play along and see what happens or you could just be straight up honest with him and let him know. Ask him, are we just going to text back and forth like this or do you want to see me again? That you are not interested in random texting back and forth.
The doc and I were out late one night and on our date we joked about being able to wake up early. That afternoon I texted her, asked her how her day was going and said I was able to make it up on time. She responded with....good for you! I was like wtf.....what kind of response is that???? So I was like f it and sent her a text back and said.......I want to see you again when are you free? She said I like your directness and proceeded to male herself available.
Ditto. Honestly Ginger... I stand by what I said earlier. If he wasn’t interested, he probably would have ghosted you or said something like...”It was nice meeting you” with a hug at the end and no follow up text at all after your first date. I think he is playing it cool (cause his friends have probably told him that’s the best way to get someone interested... eager = desperate. Yes...it’s a bit of game playing but the intention is to not scare you off. We have all had some OLD experiences that haven’t gone well. Maybe his was that he showed someone a lot of attention and they blew him off. How many times on here have we told people to not chase and to look busy and like you don’t even notice they aren’t contacting you.
He’s still texting you and telling you he hopes you have a great day... he is interested. So I think you have a couple choices... 1. You wait him out and go about your life and decide if you want to go out with him when he finally asks you. 2. You text him that you had a great time and it would be great to get together again. Tell him you are free on this day and time if he wants to do something and leave the ball in his court...no pun intended...lol.
Anyway...IMO...if you had a great time on your first date and there was an attraction, you shouldn’t just dismiss him because he’s not texting you a lot or asking you out in the time frame you deem is appropriate. You want him to be direct. Maybe he wants you to be direct as well. And if you are and he doesn’t come through than so be it. On to the next one.
