onward and upward! Pt 2

[ozman]

Old thread

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2862902#Post2862902

So to double check. I need to keep doing everything the same except I can do some non intimate touching right?

[Ready2Change]

Don't be needy. Do not let fear control you. Keep focused on you personal growth. Focus on being attractive. Do not initiate R talk. Validate her feelings when she talks. Stay busy taking care of things. Be super dad. Do not be controlling.

Do you have a plan on how to pleasantly surprise her next time you have sex? You want her thinking "WOW, that was OZ?" If not, start doing research.

[ozman]

No plan. Will research. Awesome thanks!

[Traveler]

Ozman, re: surprising your partner in bed doesn't require being freaky, buying expensive pills or gadgets, or mastering special techniques. I find it just takes playful curiosity and watching how your partner reacts. I suggest.. ice play! It's unintimidating and encourages extending fore-something or another which is fun for both. If you Google a few stories about it, you'll learn from other peoples' mistakes (frostbite) and brilliancies (pairing it with warmth) and do better than the average joe. With this or anything else new, start S-L-O-W. I often check-in afterwards if their response to what I tried anew wasn't obvious.

[DS9]

No plan. Will research. Awesome thanks!

If you haven't done it before, whispering dirty talk near her ear whilst being intimate based around how much you love pleasing her and what you have in store for her could drive her wild.

[ozman]

So I’ve been giving nightly back rubs. Which I think she enjoys. I’m doing so with no expectations. I’ll put my hand on the small of her back or something similar when I walk by. Not every time but sometimes. We haven’t ML again yet. I hope I’m not doing too much. I try to play it cool but I’ve always been a bit awkward TBH

She has also brought up a couple small things about how I’ve changed and then said “It’s kina been 10 years I’ve been asking for this stuff”. Which I don’t have a very good reply to just off the handle to when she asked why I had finally changed

thoughts?

Ps. My MRI is wed I’m gettin pretty nervous to find out how the next year of my life is going to go. Although I have let my W know 0% of how nervous I am. I’m just acting like it’s no big deal (huge 180 for me).

[ozman]

So this is the third day in a row she is really late from work

[Traveler]

So this is the third day in a row she is really late from work

Are you reading something into it?

[ozman]

I don’t know. Just an observation. I googled how long it takes to get to her job from school. It says 15 min. It usually takes her about 45. I think she does smoke a cig and bs for a min. This is the third day however that it’s 6 pm before she gets home. She gets of work at 4. I take that back yesterday she called me from her job pumped that she caught a scorpion and was bringing it home lol. She was still way late though

[Traveler]

This is the third day however that it’s 6 pm before she gets home. She gets of work at 4.

I see! What are you doing during these 2hrs, 45 minutes she's doing something independently from you?