Ok great to hear from you. Glad to see you are hanging in there. Remember, do not get caught up in her crazy. Unfortunately you will be linked to this women due to your son for the rest of your life. Just treat her kindly, but do no overly engage with her. You will persevere!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Hey, Orange. Sounds like you're doing well. I'm happy for you, man...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
Well, the relationship i ended up in was.......worse.
We got together in October of 2019, Moved in together March of 2020 (Covid sped that up), She kicked me and my son out in November of 2020, She dated another guy from Jan to July of 2021, and we reconciled and my son and i moved back in in Sept of 2021. We did good for a while, even got engaged in June of 2022. Then shortly after that she began to pull away again, and she bugged out and kicked us out again in Sept of this year. We had a brief reconnect in January, and now shes Dating another guy again.
And the wheel rolls onward....
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Well, the relationship i ended up in was.......worse.
We got together in October of 2019, Moved in together March of 2020 (Covid sped that up), She kicked me and my son out in November of 2020, She dated another guy from Jan to July of 2021, and we reconciled and my son and i moved back in in Sept of 2021. We did good for a while, even got engaged in June of 2022. Then shortly after that she began to pull away again, and she bugged out and kicked us out again in Sept of this year. We had a brief reconnect in January, and now shes Dating another guy again.
And the wheel rolls onward....
OK, sorry. Relationships are difficult. No question.
I guess the question I have for you is why you continue to hold on so tight? Imagine the pain that could have been saved if you had moved on from her after November 2020? I know at the time we think the person we are infatuated with is the best thing in the world and we will die if we don't save things with them. But you've been through it before, and you know there are other options out there.
Kick the dust off your feet and be thankful! If she is this flaky now imagine what she would be like after marrying her! Marriage has a way of amplifying problems not making them better.
You've guy this, OK! Go back to the basics. Get a life. 180s. Detachment. For you to move forward, not to try to save things with this woman.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
If she is this flaky now imagine what she would be like after marrying her!
SteveLW is right on the money! You may, one day, look on this as a blessing.
If you’ve been through DBing once, I wonder how deeply you did it. You should have come out the other side of your first marriage and divorce and DBing journey with a much better sense of self. I couldn’t imagine being with someone who didn’t want to be with me second time around!
