not much had changed over my way legally speaking, I have what I dearly hope will be our last court date coming up in a few weeks. I am hoping for a resolution to the FIL issue and a solidified custody schedule. S4 has been much better behaviorally at school since returning from his summer with my parents, although he still has hard days and tough behavior from time to time.
I however, am in a far far better place. Still struggling financially, but that's seemingly normal, just annoying.
Looking back, it scare me to think how sick and low this whole mess brought me. Now, two years and in, I do finally feel normal and healthy. The "stomach Twisties" I used to get (anxiety) are long since a thing of the past.
Feel free to ask any specifics.
It's been a crazy two years. But the orangeK I am today is a better, wiser, stronger man and father because of it. Honestly, looking back, with the exception of the pain poor S4 has had to endure, I'm actually glad it all went down how it did. I coulda been in a toxic marriage for years if not decades. All's well that ends well!
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Still struggling financially, but that's seemingly normal, just annoying.
So what are your plans to address this?
Little ditty: When my W and were dating, I had my associates degree she had a bachelors. I started taking a class here and there to get my Bachelors. When my daughter was born we decided my W would stay home to raise her. I got really serious about getting my degree and finally completed it at age 36. We struggled for about 3 years on my single, associates income, but once I got my bachelors, I landed a high paying job and kissed financial struggles goodbye.
So if you are annoyed by your finances, it is up to you to fix that.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Wow, I just skimmed through your sitch. Sorry, rushing to watch a show with the fam. I am so very happy for you. I usually hang out in the MCL forum as that's where my sitch is, but I'm glad to see people recover whether or not they end up with their spouse.
So happy you seem so grounded, happy and free. Sending blessings and light as you've given some to me. Have a great night! The best to you and your son! Oh and your new lovely lady and her D8.
W (me): 50 H: 46 M: 21 T: 25 S:17 D:15 BD 11/2019
Fate whispers to the warrior, "You can not withstand the storm" And the warrior whispers back, "I am the storm." ~Unknown
Great to hear! Will read up on your sitch! Asking specifics: What have you done/read/changed specifically to become this :
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But the orangeK I am today is a better, wiser, stronger man and father because of it.
I am on my way there but would appreciate any tips/suggestions post D.
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Me: 34 Stbxw: 30 D:5 D:3 Mini bd: May/June 2019 Married: Aug 2019 BD: 6th Dec 2019 OM Confirmed: Feb 2020 March 2020: I filed for D Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021
Honestly, same tips I'm sure you've seen here. GAL, get out an renew old hobbies/passions. Don't lean into new R to make you feel better. When you're ready you'll know it. Use it as motivation for an 80s movie style rebuild montage. "You're the best, around, nothing's gonna keep you down. "
My best advice? Don't do what I did. Lol. If you scan my sitch, you'll see I clung to attachment and needing answers for farrrrrr too long.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
ex - FIL is in very poor health, and court case is still ongoing. exw has been very chatty and asking random "conversational" questions. odd behaviors. just trying to stay frosty and mind my own business.
got a good friend going thru similar stuff. tried to offer advice and directed him here.
how are you all doing?
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
