When i was going through the divorce process, i could not wait to date. I wanted ego gratification, sex, a 2nd chance, someone to use my supposed new found relationship skills with. And yeah its exiting in the beginning. A new person after all those years.
But for me, there were and are a lot of mixed feelings. I never felt that way when i dated my ex in my early 20s. Somethings off, even if the other person is normal. Just something im noticing
Went over to a friends house last night for dinner it was fun. The dr texted me last night around 830 and we chatted for a bit. She even called me sexy....bahaaaa. I am going to her place tonight at 6 then we are going out to dinner and a movie. I figured we have been on enough dates that seeing a movie would be ok. I have been keenly aware of my emotions and I do think I am feeling myself becoming more comfortable. I really do think it is a vulnerability thing and the more I am the more comfortable I get. I do think I have built a few walls around myself.
I bet you are sexy buddy. It's time to take a chance. Just think you don't have to get an annual checkup anymore. Heck she can even give you a prostate exam lol. Probably already has lol.
Lol.....um not yet from her to me but.........bahaaaaa! I am trying L, I think about moving farther away from the x, I think about my girls, and it's just hard when your the lbs. I got into this convo last night with my friends when we were talking about dating and some of my anxiety. They are divorced but were the initiators so their experience is completely different than someone who was essentially blinded and didnt want the D. It is not a competition but as you mentioned a few weeks ago my x had at max a 1 yr head start emotionally on me. That is hard for people to understand.
I totally get it dude, just go at your own pace. If you are not ready for a commitment then don't make one. You have some time before she brings it up.
Thanks...I am. She just sent me a good morning text so she is definitely engaged! You know it's funny my anxiety issues and not being vulnerable has probably helped me more than hurt me as it has caused me to pull back, not blow up her phone and take it slow.
My basketball buddy and me where joking the other day that essentially you dont need to break up with a girl just start acting needy, desperate, and weak which should do the trick. Lol
