Synopsis Married 13 y, 2 young kids. BD jan 2018. We sort things out. Jan 2018 EA starts with a lowlife. July 2018 BD that basically ends M. D filed. Reconciliation from Sept to Oct. EA turns to PA. I move out, PA intensifies, now past temporary orders phase.
She's made large purchases on the magnitude of thousands of dollars. She has shunned her family and everyone is concerned. She has brief moments of clarity but snaps right back into the tunnel.
I am mentally much better off than 4 months ago. Lost 30 lbs and am in the best physical shape of my life. I've taken some new hobbies and am surrounded by friends and family (including hers). Next phase of D is discovery, with cell phone logs, bank and CC statements, etc... not looking forward to this.
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It's never easy when dealing w/someone in crisis. I don't envy you having to work on the discovery. It's time consuming, but necessary. Be sure to make copies of things...just in case they are requested later on.
Try to have a good day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
She's made large purchases on the magnitude of thousands of dollars.
Often this is just midlife crisis spending, but do you have any reason to suspect bipolar disorder? People in a manic episode can have uncontrolled spending.
Her father told me not too long ago that she's always had "screws loose." Her mother and brother have encouraged her to get help but she does not think anything is wrong and then projects it onto us
