You are correct... it’s a whole nother world down here. Sit back, get some pop corn, a beer and read the stories of some of these folks :-).
Nice to meet you, pinn! Coming from a guy whose Dad died at 61 and whose grandfathers both died in the 40s, life is too short to wallow in the muck. I"m ready for the next phase of my life, and I have faith that God has great plans for me.
My head is held high, ovrrnbw. D is final. I'm no longer in a fog, completely blaming myself.
Since the D went final, XW is treating me like a BFF. I don't really have too much bitterness towards her. I think she's in a strange spot (in a fog herself), and she did what she felt she needed to do to be happy. I've made a conscious effort to treat her with integrity and humility--although I don't let her walk all over me. Not because I'm trying to win her back, but because that's just me and it's best for the girls. I've started to read the "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book and I don't think I have NGS. I'm a nice guy and chill, but that's because my Mom is like that. I definitely have some anti-NGS traits. Did others in this section of the forum get into a cordial, friendly relationship with their X soon after the D or is this not normal?
I had breakfast with mine right after we went to court to finalize everything hahaha! I don’t have any ill will toward her. She was/is in a bad spot. We don’t talk much anymore but if something comes up we still check in (ie family crisis). If we had kids, I think our relationship would have been fine. I just choose to stay away now so I don’t get sucked back in... 20 yrs of that was enough!
I haven't spoken to my now XH since the night he walked out (October 11 2015) and left everything behind.
If we were ever to be in the same room together again (we sometimes work in the same industry), it wouldn't even register that he was there, it would be like he wasn't in the room, and I would act accordingly.
I wouldn't ever speak to him again. There are only a couple of people who fall into that category for me. He is one of them.
Hey Harvey - just checking in and seeing if you'd gone live on the dating site yet. I am curious to see what that's like (I got married before online dating became a thing).
Also, wanted to say thanks for being there for me. You are STILL awesome.
