Funny I had a late work function last night and decided to take a change of clothes and inform son that I would be home late so he would relay the news. As I pulled into the driveway at 9:30, my WW was sitting on the porch obviously disgruntled. She walked in the house through the garage before I could pull in but was sitting there waiting for me to come in to say she wanted a divorce as soon as possible. I am sure it was purely a reaction as I was not dressed for work when I came home and for the first time the shoe was on the other foot and this was not the first time in 3 months she has mentioned divorce or settlement only to not follow up. I just took myself down to my room walking a little taller knowing she probably did not sleep well last night.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Something like: "I can see this is really important to you, and that you are upset. I appreciate you being so open and honest with me. I've had a long day, can we finish discussing this later?"
But it is funny when the WAS claims to not care, and then their actions show they care a lot more than they want to admit!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
No chance to validate, these were the first words I have heard from her in person since Sunday night and she stormed upstairs and followed up with something along the lines of getting another husband.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
and trust me her most likely being very near a Narcissist, would not have the time to utter that many words in a calm matter. No response works well as she is always looking for a fight. She also was blowing my phone up at 6:30 last night, and texted please call only to follow up with "nevermind, don't call....ever". Then blocked my number until this AM now it is unblocked. I will remain NC and see if she reaches out today.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Lost, it sounds to me like your W likes to play the D card to get a rise out of you. Well done for letting her have her little tantrum while you kept your cool. I read back through your posts and saw that you mentioned the A she was actively in, but I'm not clear on if she's still in it or not?
Yes she’s still in it. And I think he might have given her a ring this week although he is still married. Hard to believe she was sleeping with both of us and could be considering another marriage. Last time with her was 8/14. I thought I would be more upset if this is the truth about proposal but the fact that I am not feeling that bad might be a blessing that I now know maybe it was over and too much damage has been done
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
I thought I would be more upset if this is the truth about proposal but the fact that I am not feeling that bad might be a blessing that I now know maybe it was over and too much damage has been done
Good, you're starting to really detach instead of faking it. That's great for you. What you're probably going to find, however, is now that you really don't want her, she'll start wanting you more.
Dunno, she implored a D last night and not a word about it today. This one is really messed up. Just last Thursday she was crying that she didn’t know who she was anymore. We’ll see she knows I was the one pushin the D before and want a amicable split. The OM is away this weekend and she is home so we will see what direction she goes.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Dunno, she implored a D last night and not a word about it today. This one is really messed up. Just last Thursday she was crying that she didn’t know who she was anymore. We’ll see she knows I was the one pushin the D before and want a amicable split. The OM is away this weekend and she is home so we will see what direction she goes.
Danger Danger Danger wil Robinson.
Look out for her to be highly emotional this weekend. AP being away and all, and not available. This actually could explain her irrational behavior last night. Also, I like to remind the LBS that the WAS is going through their own emotional roller-coaster. Don't forget that. And don't get on the ride with them.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
