my biggest advice for you is to really slow your roll. Everything in your sitch comes across as the biggest, most important thing. You are so wound up about things that you can't control. Focus that energy into a positive channel. Don't thrive on controversy, but find your own happiness.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
My MIL called CPS on me and my XW one time. They interviewed us and then took our D's into separate rooms and asked them non-direct questions about rules and things about their living arrangements. It was a horrible experience and something I will never forget. There was a police officer in the backroom that would have immediately taken our children if they would have felt there was an issue. My MIL is a whack job and I guess the apple hasn't fallen too far from the tree.........I digress.
If you think there is an issue then call....1 more report or 2 more reports it shouldn't matter. If I truly felt that way about the safety of my child it would only take 1 report for me to take action.
I would strongly suggest that you don't do it if you are trying to get back at her. I know this might be a sensitive subject but your posts come across as very angry, frustrated, and I get the feeling you are trying to do anything to get back at your W for what she has done.
If that is not the case then you have my apologies.
I would strongly suggest that you don't do it if you are trying to get back at her. I know this might be a sensitive subject but your posts come across as very angry, frustrated, and I get the feeling you are trying to do anything to get back at your W for what she has done.
If that is not the case then you have my apologies.
Jospeh, you have every right to think that may be the case. However, my only concern is for S3 in this regard. As i said earlier, i know OM has been around for over a year. S3 knew his name and would speak of him before i even found out about affair. So being around OM isnt an issue for me. The CO Sleeping thing pisses me off, but isnt illegal.
However if you had seen the look of fear and pain on S3's face on Monday when he pantomimed what had been done to him you would be considering calling CPS too i think.
This is not for revenge, or out of anger, or frustration. I am simply concerned for the safety and mental wellbeing of S3. The last thing i wana do is cause him to be pulled from his mother, but id she is abusing him, it needs to happen..... man this sux.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
In what kind of a 3rd world country do you live if pulling hair or "spanking" (what ever that means in this concept - playful? Like pat on the back?) is not forbidden by law? In my country, if someone witnessed you doing physical harm to your kid... that's a fine and an automatic social service case. Gladly so. Violence is the worst parenting one can fall into.
Last edited by lcause; 08/09/1804:00 PM.
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
In what kind of a 3rd world country do you live if pulling hair or "spanking" (what ever that means in this concept - playful? Like pat on the back?) is not forbidden by law? In my country, if someone witnessed you doing physical harm to your kid... that's a fine and an automatic social service case. Gladly so. Violence is the worst parenting one can fall into.
Ive had others tell me that the hair pulling isnt really abuse, or if so, its merely borderline.
The only disciplines i use are time outs, supervised time outs if hes throwing a fit, rigid bedtime (even though this is rarely successful) or taking away toys / games etc when misbehaving. Then we have a talk about Good behavior vs bad behavior and which is which
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
In what kind of a 3rd world country do you live if pulling hair or "spanking" (what ever that means in this concept - playful? Like pat on the back?) is not forbidden by law? In my country, if someone witnessed you doing physical harm to your kid... that's a fine and an automatic social service case. Gladly so. Violence is the worst parenting one can fall into.
Proverbs 13:24
This is why we have a world full of me-first spoiled brats.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve, i dont particularly agree with that Proverb. I discipline my son just fine without "The Rod" if i have him for 3-4 days in a row, the crap behavior he exhibits after being with her all but fades away. If anything i would say her use of "The Rod" (or in this case, hair pulling) is not only traumatizing him, but making his negative behaviors amplified.
-I would like to keep the focus on S3 here, and not fall into a theological debate, but i must say -
I am a bit alarmed by how many times ive seen the word "Hate" in bible verses you've quoted.
"God Hates Divorce" "He who spares the rod hates their son"
You know I am not a man of faith, but i respect your choice to be one, however this aggressive mentality i dont think has a place in today's world. How is it that God, who is all love, can hate so many things? What cause does an omnipotent and omniscient entity have for hatred? If man was made in His image, wouldn't these things God "Hates" such as "sparing the rod" and Divorce, simply be mortal manifestations of Him simply existing in that which He created? Seems contradictory to me.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Regardless. I am picking S3 up at 5:30. If he has more to say regarding hair pulling, or anything like that I am calling CPS.
He had a weird small scar on his leg last week too. almost looked like a burn, when i asked him he said a kid at school did it on the playground so i didnt think twice about it, but Ill be keeping a super extra vigilant eye on things now, it didnt look like a playground injury. It wasnt a bump or scrape, it looked like a little burn blister.
We'll see.
Amazed, by all the things i never thought her capable of.
I said she would never lie to me, compulsive liar.
I said she would never cheat on me, even after people strongly sugjessted it was already happening, I denied it. Serial Cheater.
I would have never in a million years thought she would harm S3, she very much seems to be abusing him.
She has committed insurance fraud, gotten me falsely imprisoned, where i was beaten up by guards and inmates alike.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
