I got the sense a long time ago that because she was being nice and not pushing her lawyer you thought that she was changing her mind. I knew that most likely she was saving up money for her post D life.
At the time of the filing you should have sat down and discussed how you were going to handle the monthly expenses moving forward.
I think your move now is to come to an agreement and move forward with your lawyers/mediation.
If you are selling the house start getting it ready to hit the market.
Thank you LH, yes I have been getting the house ready to sell, W now says she wants to buy me out. I said we will let the L's handle it. She claims that she wants the kids to pay her rent so she can then pay the household expenses.
We have our first conerence on Aug.13th W and L still have not stated what they want. She is wanting me to do all the work, not going to happen. I cannot believe how many Vets on here said there will come a point when you are done and its true. It feels good to finally be at this point.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
My advice to you is if she wants to buy you out and you don't want the house let her buy you out. Don't make things difficult and let the lawyers sit back and take all your money.
Most likely she feels guilty about all this and you should definitely use it to your advantage. I did and it saved me thousands of dollars.
Going to social club tonight for July birthday celbrations, we celebrate everyones birthday on one day, it makes it easier. Of course we will be playing darts. The club has many events coming up unfortunately the Texas hold em was canceled. We will reschedule for a different date.
I was asked to do a 5-7 minute roast for my cousin who is turning 60. He is the one who got me into the social club. I am preparing material for this as it will be so fun to be able to roast someone without them being able to answer back. All in good fun and it will be a clean roasting. If anyone has any good one liners please pass them along...
I talked to W's sister who is 61 and thinks my w is a real jerk. She also thinks the time has come for me to ask her to leave. We were very close with this sister, she lives out of state and is the godmother to one of our children.
Still want to do whitewater rafting. Have to just do it!
Stepped up running again, starting a new push-up and sit-up routine. I think this is good.
Just got good news in the mail, D19 was involved in a minor car accident where the other driver went crazy yelling and screaming at her. He kept saying this is your fault, yelling so much that another motorist stopped to help my D. The other driver and the good samaritan ended up having a fist fight. The police came and broke it up, no arrests but D19 was quite shaken up. The letter states that D19 has 0% liabilty in the accident. She is just so happy right now...she thanked me for helping her. I did all the insurance stuff, and surprisingly W said that she was happy with the way I handled it. Not that it matters, but I said thank you.
I am off to the gym, them take D19 to work, then Social club tonight. Saturday night party at friends house and Sunday dinner at parents house. All good stuff... moving on... forward...etc. etc.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Wow, sounds like some critical things have happened. So what did W do when she got home from work that day and found all her stuff in the living room? Did you guys talk to the kids? Did she move out? Did she go on her vacation? Sorry, lol, it was like a lot of stuff got missed between your posts and all these questions jumped out at me.
Glad your daughter is ok, driving is always a big worry for a parent. My S17 is almost 18 and is obviously old enough to drive, but hasn't really had the time or the desire to spend too much time doing so and thus he still doesn't have his license. He's actually barely made it out of parking lot mode! We're going to work on it hard in the next couple weeks.
M: 43, H: 44 Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs S17, D15, D8, S6 Still living in MH
Hello H, I will respond here first but i just read your thread and I will go there in a bit.
W got home from work and never said a word to me and hasnt since, I have not tried to speak with her as well. She is now being overly nice to the kids prob out of guilt but I really dont know. We have not told the kids anything, they will fnd out everything in due time and I do not want them to think I need there help, which I do not want them taking sides.
She is supposed to leave for vacation today, I really dont know where she is and I am not asking anyone. She left all her stuff here tooth brush, deodorant, etc. W's car is here and it has been here since 8:30am when I woke up. I guess being stealth is what she wants. I have noticed but have not discussed S21 becoming more withdrawn from W, he said that he doesnt understand how his mom could be going on another vacation and he thinks is wrong. Once again I just validate.
D19 is also on vaca going to cali with friends. Glad she can get away! She was very happy about the car accident situation.
I am GAL like crazy... will write an update soon.
S22 just came to me in tears, he never cries... will update later
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
