I’ve posted on MLC and Now separated. My WAW is in full MLC mode and will only let me stay at her house 7 days per month. Her parents live in her house so she has her support network. I am asking us to compromise on additional time but she dug her heels in. We are in 8th month of separation. She says she wants a divorce but won’t file because I asked her not to. We have two kids together and I have two from previous marriage. We live in 2 different states and I cannot afford to live separately. I am saddened and avoiding telling my 2 eldest kids their new step mom wants a divorce. I think she has PPD. Our kids are 1 1/2 and 3, and it breaks my heart, as her family seems saddened by this but do not appear to want to get involved.
Hey! Have you consulted a lawyer yet? Not sure if anyone here can answer your questions because you need legal advice on your rights. It doesn't sound like you can reason with her about the situation.
Thanks for your post. I met with a lawyer last year when we separated the first time. We reconciled for 6 months. Her house is legally hers, so I am treading lightly. I asked to live with her family members and they accepted if I am no there. Just wish they could talk sense into her, but Sandi’s rules say don’t talk to family.
I would ask your post to get moved to Newcomers where there is more traffic and people will respond to your sitch, including some folks who have been here for a long time. Press the notify button on the post and then ask the Mod to move your post for now to Newcomers.
Yes, I don't think talking to her family members will help you in this situation. What did the lawyer advise last year?
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Thanks for the advice. Lawyer was more concerned about dividing assets and visitation schedule. This is my second marriage so unfortunately I am a veteran.
