My partner and I are separated. He moved to another country to get away from it all. In the meantime, he still messages me everyday but no more saying of I love you or stuff like that. Sometimes, it seems like he's very warm to me but then he starts to grow cold and blames me for the deterioration of the relationship.
My question is, is there any way to get my ex back? Is there still hope between us? How do I mend things between us?
For more context, we have been married only for two years, he is still thinking about divorce and just yesterday he told me that it really is over and he'll go back to finalize it. We have no children.
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka that I totally agree with.
Originally Posted By: Wonka
Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.
It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.
We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.
Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.
There is always hope as long as their is breath in your bodies! So don't give up. Put the DB and DR principles into practice and you could turn your marriage around. If it doesn't turnaround at least you will be in a better position to move forward with your life.
Good luck in your sitch.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
