I just found this post. Thank you Zues. I'm printing off and keeping in my night table and reading it until it's imprinted in my mind. Here I am 2 months after BD and thinking "well, that last week was a little better". Baloney. He needs to make the moves, not throw me little crumbs. I will stop analyzing every conversation, and continue to get on with my life, as difficult as it is sometimes. If he catches up, so be it. If not, so be it.
Me: 57 H:60 Married: 25 yrs DB #1 June 4/19 "I love you forever" June 14/19 DB#2: June 19/19 ILYBINILWY
This is an amazing thread. It recently really sunk in. Maybe I should have read it the full ten times as recommended. The analogy to an addict hitting rock bottom is so apt. That is exactly what I compare it to.
Man, there was a Zeus post from a year or longer back, I think on his friend's thread that was just so good. If I find it I'll add it to the quotes page.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.