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[gw5263]

So I’ve taken some time to take stock in a lot of things. Been lacking in a lot of areas in divorce Boston. So went back and read everything LA tonight teen told me to read in addition to Texas Hubby. After a lot of thinking and soul-searching, I’ve decided to take artista’s route . I have a quit claim form she signed for the house, made her get the toys out, charged the WiFi, and most importantly, completed a pro she divorce packet with agreeent attached. I am filing noonday mikrning. I have also gotten with a government agency to help save may homie. I Now realize what everyone’s been saying, turning him in wall not have the desired effect. Sure of a wreck his career and ruin his life, but it would be better for her to go down and see for herself all the lies she’s been fed by this man. To experience it firsthand. Range is not the best option. Reality is. I’ve told her her fantasy world is coming to a crashing halt as soon as it hits reality head on. Monday morning it will hit reality Head on. I cannot live this way any longer and I refuse to. I told her she needs to start packing her things and leave the home. Time will tell how this goes. I’m quite sure I’ll get some two by fours or comments on making a bad decision. But it’s my decision. It’s my life. I have to move on and enjoy life. No more limbo.

[gw5263]

Auto correct wreaked havoc on me.......

[artista]

How has she responded? What was her reaction when you told her to leave the home? When you took away the wifi? Your kids? Let me say this: Do not say anything about her fantasy life coming to an end... Actions, not words...

[gw5263]

She cried when I told her to get her things together. The WiFi pissed her off. I told her to stop using the kids as pawns and to recognize that the divorce will not be a casual friendly endeavor. That one of us would not like the outcome. To drop the expectation that I will lay down and let her roll over me and have her way in the proceedings. She can’t afford a lawyer and I am guaranteed 50 percent custody before entering the court room by state law . She said if I get more than 30 percent she couldn’t keep the kids with her because she couldn’t support herself, and it would be me punishing her for loving someone else. It’s this in a bit she’ll- she cheated, she made the decision to do so, and she must accept the consequences. I will not lose out on my children’s lives because she decided to step out. He will have no part in raising my kids. I think once reality hits and he sees movement he will run. He isn’t ready and does not want the responsibility of a family. It would seriously impeded his social life and stop him from buying the expensive things he likes . Over all her reaction was disbelief as I handed her a completed packet, and she cried a lot.

[gw5263]

I slipped up and told her that her fantasy was getting ready to meet reality head on. Hope that didn’t hurt anything.......

[Btrow]

and it would be me punishing her for loving someone else

Well anything but the best possible outcome for you is punishing YOU for HER loving somebody else. It's weird that they can't see that...

I slipped up and told her that her fantasy was getting ready to meet reality head on. Hope that didn’t hurt anything.......

Compared to some of the slip ups we see here every once in a while, that was a non-slip up.. Don't worry about it.

Whether he will run or not, we do not know. Some AP's seems to be hanging on.

[gw5263]

NOw that I’ve reached this point any suggestions or ideas of what to do next?
I know for sure this will get very ugly. Custody will be the big issue. By state law I am guaranteed 50-50. She wants me to ain’t an agreement to allow her to take them out of state and I refuse. My children will not live with him or be raised by him. This will be a major issue. She has previously said she’d make me a three month a year dad , but unless I sign off she is prevented by law from new school taking them out of state and she knows it. She said at one point I don’t sign she will have to be a three month a year mom. I really don’t care. This was her choice. I’m not doing it tonpunish her, I don’t want him around my children all the time, and I will not be punished for her mistake. They have a stable home and are doing well in school. She wants to uproot them and move them to Georgia and put them in a school and home they are unfamiliar with and live with aman she’s known for a year only over the phone. My son is autistic and does not handle change well at all. I cannot allow this to happen.

[artista]

Of course you will not agree to be a 3-month a year Dad... Why should you? Chances are she won't end up in Georgia... But she is free to if that's what she wants... That's on her... That decision of hers has nothing to do with you... You are not forcing her to go to Georgia... No matter what she says... You are not punishing her because she fell in love with someone else... You are taking your life back from her craziness... You don't owe her living your life in her self-made insanity... That she thinks you should put up with her out right disrespect for you, your home, marriage and family shows how highly she thinks of herself... now that you have taken a bold stance, you need to follow through...

[gw5263]

I am. She got super mad tonight because I refused to sign the agreement to allow the kids to go to Georgia. I thought hard about it. My daughter thinks that the suns shines out of my wife’s arse, and would be devastated to be away from her. My son would die if he was separated from his sister. So I made the painful choice to allow them to go with her. If I forced the issue and made them stay here with me odds are they would end up resenting me forever. It might be a reversal or backup on my part, but the well-being of my kids is important to me. The fact that she could choose to hurt me and the two kids over hurting him by breaking up with him says a lot about her mental state right now. She would choose to hurt us over him...... I also thought again about turning him in, but then my sensible , thinking side emerged after being dormant for so long. It might be a good idea to have her take them and go to him. She wanted to leave them with me over the summer while she went to him to “get things ready” then get them for school..it might be better to let her take them right away to go there so there is no three month kid free love fest. Let reality really hit home right out of the gate. I could fight to keep the kids here and win but it would only make them hae bad feelings towards me right now......

[gw5263]

I haven’t told her that I made the choice. I’m still really trying to wrap my head around it all. My mind is going three different directions at once. I did however tell her how jacked up it was that she found it easier to hurt us than to hurt him.....s