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Holding,

This has nothing to do with evening the score. It's about sitting back and trying to enjoy life. But yet I have these limitations. At this moment I am seriously questioning what morality even means to the MR at this point. I am literally in a open MR right now. And only one of us is benefiting from it.


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So enjoying life means going having a one night stand, then go ahead. Just be sure not to hurt that that person.

No one is holding you back from enjoying your life.

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It's not about a one night stand. But if the opportunity arises, I shouldn't be thinking that this would be wrong to do behind my W back.


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Do not do things out of anger. If you are in that mood you get the opportunity and feel worse afterwards. I was in that mode when I ended up having a one night stand with a person who I find very unattractive and it made things worse for me. I have so much pain and everyday I replay that and think of how I could have avoided that. I also think of risks and what could have been. It added to my depression and things went downhill mentally.


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I was never in a R with the OM. Had a one night stand & I stopped contact immediately
I confessed the A to H and we went for MC
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So I left IC a few hours ago. IC thinks it's time to throw in the towel and move on. She feels that I deserve so much better. Ran into W old IC who asked how things were going. After explaining everything she pretty much suggested the same. I know that she wants to probably tell me what took place in their session but can't by law. So she just gives me these sad looks. But she told me that I need to look out for myself and S14. Any thoughts?


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Very rough my friend. No real thoughts. The common advice here is to detach, take care of your kids and GAL.

Stick with it


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T....it rides with you. What do you want to do? Do you feel you have clarity?


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Tread, you seem like a nice guy, but also an angry one. I think it would help you to work on your anger before you make any big decisions. Just my impression, could be wrong.

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Originally Posted By: Tread
IC thinks it's time to throw in the towel and move on.


What does this mean to you?

How will your actions/thoughts be different after this?

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Originally Posted By: Tread
IC thinks it's time to throw in the towel and move on.


Tread,

That actually kinda-sorta sounds like DB; you work on yourself, detach and build a future for yourself and your children. Asta la vista baby. It doesn't mean that you have to take immediate legal action.

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