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[joejoe1]

Oh,

I finally got my first S mother name covered up that was going down my spine. My W had been asking me the entire M to get it covered up. She said she felt disrespected every time she looked at my back. Also, her parents would ask who name isbtjat on his back and she felt super embarrassed to answer. But now it's covered, it hurt like he'll. Now it's itching like hell.

Also, it's crazy to me how I'm dealing with all of this. I'm a very prideful man and I always thought I wouldn't put up with a situation like this. Don't ever say never or what you won't do.

Onward and forward.

[CT1118]

I am truly happy for you Joe. I would be remiss to not state concern as well, you did come here, ostensibly, for the truth of others in. Please do not ignore AnotherStander's request, that you not ignore what got you here, to the point of her "wanting anyone to want her but you" as you stated.

I like that you gave up the rings. Going to be mixed opinions here on that, but for me it was an early choice, perhaps early realization, as you said, that old marriage is dead.

Peace my friend. Don't stop checking in. This place is like high tides, we think we think they are predictable until the streets flood. Harborage when we need it.

[joejoe1]

CT,

This place def is my harbor. I come here and look over the pier. I got peace here. I also got my ass whooped all for the betterment of me. I slowly start to realize this place is for the people here and not the S.

I will keep dropping in. I will also offer my advice. When we come here we are in a panic looking for def answers. There is none. But there is hope in the post from the Vets and others. Hope is what gives us drive to move on, and in the end that's what we are all looking for. I had to realize that is wasn't just hope to save my M, but hope to save myself.

CT,

I read what you wrote to Clyde, and I also read the post you made about loving and finding yourself first. Those words need to be made a staple of this forum. You can't love, respect, fight for, or take care of others, if you cant do all these things for yourself first.

Thanks CT. Enjoy your weekend.

[Maika]

Great to read your update Joe! Keep on keeping for yourself and I wish you all the best. No matter what happens, you are stronger and better than you first came here. I also appreciate your advice on my thread as well. Keep checking in when you can.

[joejoe1]

M,

Thanks. You are sounding good yourself. I wish I could see pics of your tatts.

You about to shut the game down with those sleeves.

[TBSakaJ9]

Nice work joe...I don't have much to say other than continue to feed the good wolf and work on getting to place to where you are happy and confident with yourself! Continue to keep us updated and I guess most of all be patient!

[Gordie]

Joe,

I’m so happy for you and best wishes on this next chapter. It won’t be easy. You give the rest of us hope. Keep posting.

[sandi2]

You are doing a great job. Your enemy will be discouragement and the temptation to slack off and gradually fall back into old behaviors. Therefore, be watchful.

I hope you continue coming to the board. Piecing can be challenging at times, so you will need support.

It will be exciting to see the changes and the new relationship develop in your M and family.

((hugs))

[AnotherStander]

Another great update Joe! Sounds awesome, your hard work and infinite patience are paying off Keep up the good work brother, and please do keep inspiring others here. Those just starting their journey love hearing from those who have reconciled!

[Holding]

JoeJoe, it's good to see you posting. You're headed in a great direction!

Remember your positive attitude. I think that's what got you to where you are now.

Don't be a stranger around here