LOL.....thanks M. I am just trying to decide how long I wait around thinking that she is going to have a change of heart. We have not spoke about us in any capacity in 2.5 months. I originally said 6 months but something tells me she just isn't going to wake up 1 day and decide to come back.
J9, you've seen the stories here 2.5 months is nothing; but I feel ya limbo is no fun. I think that's another benefit to the GAL. Get your DB down so you don't have to constantly worry about it, then you get busy livin' which helps the time go by. The W becomes less and less of your life, so what you are waiting for becomes less and less of a big deal.
M: 41 W: 41 Married 2003 2 boys 9 & 6 Bomb Dropped May 2017
We are rookies/amateurs in this here DB thing. I cried tonight ready to give up. No lies. I was fed up. Then my WW called me to asked me if I wanted popsicles.
Ahhhhhhhhhh........Dammit...... I had my speech ready to go.
But for real. This sh$t is hard. Man staying this way for months and years takes true patience and perseverance. I must fight on.
I'm going skydiving this weekend and me and Holding are meeting up in SA.
Happy GALing and DBing this weekend DBers!
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
Get your DB down so you don't have to constantly worry about it, then you get busy livin' which helps the time go by. The W becomes less and less of your life, so what you are waiting for becomes less and less of a big deal.
This is the next step for you dude. You're doing great with the DB techniques NC no pursuit etc. Next step and a 180 for you is stepping up the GAL. What can you do to get out of your comfort zone?
Hmm...that is a good question. I am totally comfortable being at home by myself so in some ways I am kind of a home body. I guess something that would be a 180 for me would be like going out to concerts, maybe taking a overnight/daytrip somewhere, maybe shooting range, stuff like that which would get me out of the house more. I guess with my daughters having soccer on sat then we go to church on Sunday's I am finding it hard to get out as much as I would like, then when you work all week it makes it challenging. I would really like to start golfing, that is something I always wanted to do and pick up!
Here's what you can start to do. Everywhere you go smile and say hello to everyone especially the ladies. " hi how are you" Next when at the mall, store, grocery store address the clerks by name. "Hi Rachel, how are you today" then listen and respond. People love to talk about themselves. Just ask questions. I highly recommend How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
After awhile you'll be able to strike up a convo with anyone.
