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Going back to J9's thread, I feel that I am finally discovering my purpose.

Setting up this blog and writing has been such an eye opener to me (as if they weren't being opened enough). I feel that should W ever ask what my purpose is, I can finally give her an answer other than being a dad and a husband, and that would be:

To enrich people's lives by teaching and entertaining, through positive storytelling.

I feel that with the blog, and with my writing, I can mix entertainment with teaching opportunities, telling my own personal experiences in a relateable way.

I think a lot of my GAL efforts are going to be focused on this front.

In addition to the blog, I have a book that I am try to actively work on.


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Jmstl,

Nice, let me know the book name, so I can check it out.


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You see that is cool none of which interests me smile.

I even told my IC about how my W does stuff like that. Her parents are old school hippies and are all into the alternative stuff, in-touch with their feelings and all that. Which is cool, I am not hating but none of that is remotely appealing to me.


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J dawg be splitting tree trunks with his knuckles while we write about it 😀


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It [censored] but it's true....maybe my W wanted me to be more in touch with my inner chi or something like that. That why I am exploring it with my IC but in reality I am a happy, go lucky person that doesn't need a lot of mental stimulation.

If that is what my W wants I can't do it, would be miserable. Like I forced myself to read LL, NMMNG, etc. It was hard.....


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Don't change for her. You do you and you rock.


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Originally Posted By: Maika
Don't change for her. You do you and you rock.



What M said.

Don't change for her, change for yourself, if you want to.

For me, I am changing for me. But the things I am changing ARE things that W pointed out were an issue. So I had to reflect on that.

I even had a blog post about this very topic, Motivation for change.


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If I did it she would know it is fake. BTW, I just changed my FB profile photo with her not in it. Let's see if that gets her going smile

Thanks M.....at the end of the day we are who we are. We can make small tweaks but they have to be lasting or we will go right back into the same old crap.


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Originally Posted By: Joseph9
If I did it she would know it is fake. BTW, I just changed my FB profile photo with her not in it. Let's see if that gets her going smile

Thanks M.....at the end of the day we are who we are. We can make small tweaks but they have to be lasting or we will go right back into the same old crap.


J9, that is totally true. For me I am aiming for a larger change, but trying to do it small manageable chunks.


Married 9: Together 11
M:37 W:35
S:2 D:7
Bomb dropped 6/3/2017
W moved out 7/1/2017
Separation Filed: 8/1/2017
Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017
Divorced: 10/5/2017
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