More of the same. Manipulation. Your lack of response is obviously getting to her. She wants you to jump when she cracks the whip, and is frustrated that it's not working. Go find something to do to take your mind off of things.
Oh, and when you eventually get around to answering her, do NOT apologize for not doing so sooner.
E - I will not apologize; but I do want to re-establish the fact that I do not want a D. Do I need to let this go - can I text her something like; "I really need time to digest this past conversation; I can understand your anger here, but I still am not interested in a D; I do not think that will save our marriage problems".
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
I'd take this with a large grain of salt and hope for an answer from someone wiser than I before saying anything back to her, but my thoughts here are that validating her is fine, but you don't have to tell her you don't want a divorce. She already knows that, you've already told her. What is telling her again going to accomplish here? What's your goal for doing so?
"Your no response means to me that your ok with this? Alright"
How about W "I really don't appreciate you administering ultimatums about divorce due to my simple request. I feel that is very disrespectful to me. I would really love to sit down and and discuss this like two adults and see if we can work on our problems.I do not want a divorce, but if that is your choice I cannot do anything to stop you"
So I sent the message; "I really don't appreciate you administering ultimatums about divorce due to my simple request. I feel that is very disrespectful to me. I would really love to sit down and and discuss this like two adults and see if we can work on our problems.I do not want a divorce, but if that is your choice I cannot do anything to stop you"
She came back with - "The last 3 weeks you have done nothing to reach out to me or try to spend time with me. The only time we have talked or seen each other is when I told you to come over or I texted you. How do you think that makes me feel? I feel that you have given up and have not shown anything that you still want this . Therefore, I have separated myself even more from you and now more than ever and probably ready to move forward with D. I didn't give you an ultimatum but I do expect you to respond to me. I've never not responded to you and left you hanging like that. "
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
She Added: "And it wasn't just that comment. It's been the lack of effort the last three weeks, the fact that you weren't even happy to see me yesterday, the fact that you're not coming to nieces birthday if you're in town"....
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
