We're still together and I'm still haunted by my wife's affair 5 years on. When the affair first came out I got Michele's materials, followed it to a tee and we are still together (thank you). My wife made all the changes, big ones including moving and I can't fault her.
But I still have daily flashbacks about their sex. It's destroying me. I'll be dreaming about something random and then there'll be a switch to them having sex, I don't consciously decide to think about it, it just pops into my head and bam feel like crap. I tell my self 'stop' immediately and do something to not dwell but I don't know why these keep coming in, daily without prompting or any pre-thought about it.
Has this happened to anyone else, how did you get past it?
I don't want to spend the rest of my marriage like this.
I'm sorry ur going through this. I don't have personal experience with this. What happened to u is very traumatic. It is similar to having PTSD. Intrusive thoughts can be triggered by a number of factors, smells, sounds, noice etc...EMDR is very effective in treating traumas. Visit their Web site to find a certified practitioner near you. Or try a counselor who has trauma specific trainig.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
We're still together and I'm still haunted by my wife's affair 5 years on. When the affair first came out I got Michele's materials, followed it to a tee and we are still together (thank you). My wife made all the changes, big ones including moving and I can't fault her.
But I still have daily flashbacks about their sex. It's destroying me. I'll be dreaming about something random and then there'll be a switch to them having sex, I don't consciously decide to think about it, it just pops into my head and bam feel like crap. I tell my self 'stop' immediately and do something to not dwell but I don't know why these keep coming in, daily without prompting or any pre-thought about it.
Has this happened to anyone else, how did you get past it?
I don't want to spend the rest of my marriage like this.
Hello 3am,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
Couples often struggle to get past intense emotional pain, mistrust, resentment and never ending arguments about the betrayal. Healing from infidelity is achievable for both of you with the right support and tools.
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Cristy
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