Round 2, Part 2 (Electric Boogaloo)

[Bdog37]

That's all good news and sounds very positive Tryin. Good to hear!

Now the real work begins, but it sounds like the both of you are truly committed this time so that's a big plus! Maybe the both of you can learn from your mistakes during the last recon and really put in the necessary work so that you guys come out stronger in the long run.

Just stay at it my friend so you don't end up here for round 3 and congrats!

[EastTN]

Tryin,

Just want to say that both of you actually WORKING through this sounds great. Wishing nothing but the best for you!

[Thornton]

You're headed in the right direction, my friend!

My fingers are crossed!

[Tryin2figuritout]

Many thanks guys. I'm happy to be in this position and recognizing how fortunate we are to really give it a go. It's going to be hard work, but we're aware that it is all worth it.

All the best to y'all.

[LH19]

Tryin,

Good for you! You are a good dude, you deserve happiness!

[Tryin2figuritout]

Met with our marriage counselor yesterday and the best part about it was that we both believe in each other and our ability to do this thing. Our counselor looked to us and said you call me if you need me.

Things have been so open and honest and real. We're very fortunate, but it's still slow and steady.

Happy Father's Day to all of the Father's on this board.

All the best,

[Tobias]

it's always nice to hear a success story. Good luck in the process. I am hoping now that we started MC that we realize how both of us can do this and that we believe in each other as well. But of course these things take time...

[TxHubby]

Right now you're in a honeymoon/hyper-bonding phase. You're so thrilled that she wants you and wants to keep the family together that you're completely disregarding her cheating. She slept with another man. You can't sweep that under the rug. I just want you to be prepared for the day when your joy over reconciling gets a jolt when rage rears its ugly head. At some point you're going to rage over her laying with OM. You need to be ready when that hits or bad things can happen. First is your acknowledgement that you know it's coming and to have a strategy for when it hits you. Other than seemingly overlooking that, you're doing well.

[Tryin2figuritout]

Tobias - It's really important that both of y'all are "in it to win it". We had counseling 4 years ago, but my W has now admitted that the whole time she was still blaming me for everything. She had not acknowledged her own contributions. Now that she has and is working on them (and I'm working on mine), I feel like we've got a good shot.

TxHubby - Believe me, I have not overlooked this. I have not had to write much on this on the board because I'm handling through my counseling sessions and conversations with my W. It has not been easy, but one thing I've recognized is her A was not they symptom it was the outcome of our former M/R. I say former marriage/relationship because it's all new going forward. Addressing those things that brought us to where we got 4 years ago and recently.

Onwards and upwards...