I still struggle with how my WW told me she can't live without me, that she wishes the affair never happened and she loves me with all her heart during a tearful conversation on Jan 1 and then a month later has decided she wants OM. Can a person really flip like that in a month when nothing happened during that interval to make her not love me? My wife never expressed any doubts about our marriage until late January.
Yes, they can flip. One has to wonder if part of that conversation was cover. She may not have expressed doubts, but they were there.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I still struggle with how my WW told me she can't live without me, that she wishes the affair never happened and she loves me with all her heart during a tearful conversation on Jan 1 and then a month later has decided she wants OM. Can a person really flip like that in a month when nothing happened during that interval to make her not love me? My wife never expressed any doubts about our marriage until late January.
At least it took a month for yours to flip. It only took a week for mine so who knows. I'm also starting to question the whole remorseful W after the A. Mine told me all the same things yours was telling you, but if they were true then how flip so quickly.
M: 37 W: 36 T: 16 M: 11 D2: 8,3 PA: 2015 WAW: 2016 W Filed: 2017 2/07/2017 W officially dating OM2
I don't think any of it is true when they flip. They were looking at option B until A started back up again.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I don't think any of it is true when they flip. They were looking at option B until A started back up again.
You are probably right. She knew what she was doing was wrong so she wanted to love me but really wanted OM and didn't think it was realistic at that time. By the end of January she reached the point she wanted to know if OM was a possibility or not and as soon as she found out OM was on the way out with his wife and possibly available, she was done with me. IMO the only thing that will stop her relationship with OM is time with him to show her he's not everything. She told me he has no flaws or negatives. Just crazy.
She told me he has no flaws or negatives. Just crazy.
Wow--that is a new one!
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
I know who the OM is but have never looked him up to see what he looks like or other info. Is there any benefit to doing that at this late stage? My thought is it would haunt me to envision his face with my wife but I find myself curious every once in a while.
I know who the OM is but have never looked him up to see what he looks like or other info. Is there any benefit to doing that at this late stage? My thought is it would haunt me to envision his face with my wife but I find myself curious every once in a while.
At least you haven't seen the things I have. Once seen, they are never forgotten. The OMs wife sent me every single picture off of his phone...including ALL of the sex ones. Think about that for a minute. Now you'll come to the understanding I have about cheaters...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I know who the OM is but have never looked him up to see what he looks like or other info. Is there any benefit to doing that at this late stage? My thought is it would haunt me to envision his face with my wife but I find myself curious every once in a while.
I actually know who my W is dating. We happen to have mutual friends. Although my W does not talk about him she is going above and beyond for him in ways that she never did for me. Everyone tells me that it is a rebound R and won't last, but its still hard no matter what. Don't bother looking him up. I don't think it will do any good knowing what he looks like. The only reason I checked up on my W's OM was because he had a criminal background and I wanted to ensure the safety of my children. Other than that there is nothing you can do. She is with him now so the best thing would be is to focus on yourself and not their R.
M: 37 W: 36 T: 16 M: 11 D2: 8,3 PA: 2015 WAW: 2016 W Filed: 2017 2/07/2017 W officially dating OM2
