IMO I wouldn't bee surprised if this didn't play a part in your situation. My wife and I went through fertility issues 12 years ago and it was the most stressful time in our lives. My IC thinks that it may have a role in my situation right now.
IMO I wouldn't bee surprised if this didn't play a part in your situation. My wife and I went through fertility issues 12 years ago and it was the most stressful time in our lives. My IC thinks that it may have a role in my situation right now.
I am not excluding it as an issue. It was just never a stressful issue for us that I could tell. I know it can be for a lot of couples though. Now, WW may have felt like a failure or just not told me she was stressed but she really seemed okay with the belief that IVF was the solution. She repeatedly told me in the last couple years she wanted no more than 1 child as well so 3 is definitely not something she is interested in. I don't think she's thought of the impact of the three kids on her personally. She still views this as love will conquer all type stuff and life will be good as long as her and OM are together.
IMO there is hope for you. I think your wife was just in the wrong place at the wrong time and is going through some issues that has caused her to temporary lose her sense of judgement.
WW is moving into local apartment for 6 months. Sent me a very sterile email announcing her next move. I plan to file for divorce. Has anyone's wife come back from the fog after divorce is filed?
Clemson -
Why are you filing for divorce?
Hw will your life be different if you are divorced?
WW is moving into local apartment for 6 months. Sent me a very sterile email announcing her next move. I plan to file for divorce. Has anyone's wife come back from the fog after divorce is filed?
Clemson -
Why are you filing for divorce?
Hw will your life be different if you are divorced?
Couple reasons. First, she would likely file for divorce if I don't. We are doing the divorce amicably without attorneys and so far so good. We have all the documents drafted and signed already. Second, financially I want to stop the bleeding and not fund her fantasy with OM. Third, I plan to move forward with life and I think to do that I need to end this madness. I cannot be married to a woman who continues to choose another man over me. That is the very essence of marriage to me. The A was one thing but this abandonment of our marriage for OM is unacceptable. I really have a hard time being the fall back option. So if we are truly meant to be, then we will reconnect down the line. But until then, there really isn't anything to save.
IMO there is hope for you. I think your wife was just in the wrong place at the wrong time and is going through some issues that has caused her to temporary lose her sense of judgement.
Patience will be the key.
I like to think there is hope. We had several heartfelt and tearful conversations after the A and she sent me several nice emails immediately after the A and told me she loves me with all her heart and wants to grow old with me and she regrets the A. I want to believe my loving and kind wife is in there somewhere and will return some day. But the person I am dealing with right now is giving me no hope, is cold and callous as well and clearly wants nothing to do with me.
We had several heartfelt and tearful conversations after the A and she sent me several nice emails immediately after the A and told me she loves me with all her heart and wants to grow old with me and she regrets the A.
More than i got. There is no regret or remorse of my wife's A (which could possibly still be going on).
M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6 11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing 1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break 2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing 2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
More than i got. There is no regret or remorse of my wife's A (which could possibly still be going on).
Me either. My ex's affair destroyed two families and she has yet to show any remorse. None. Little birdies are starting to chirp quite loudly that the two are talking again.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Sorry to hear your wives never expressed remorse. That is pretty cold. If nothing else you would think they feel guilty for hurting you.
I still struggle with how my WW told me she can't live without me, that she wishes the affair never happened and she loves me with all her heart during a tearful conversation on Jan 1 and then a month later has decided she wants OM. Can a person really flip like that in a month when nothing happened during that interval to make her not love me? My wife never expressed any doubts about our marriage until late January.
