[quote=2016sux] If my WH has made these choices because he is damaged and weak, do I not have a duty as someone who pledged themselves as a life partner to help him?
Anchor,
The thing is that as of now he has not asked for your help. I think it is ok to leave the door open to reconciliation as long as you keep moving forward. He has to do the heavy lifting on his own and he will have to hit rock bottom first.