There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Toi- You don't have to give up unless that's what you want. It doesn't matter what W is saying right now. Her feelings are based on the current situation. Change the situation and you can change her feelings.
For the record, you've never seen a spouse act more determined to get out of a marriage than mine was. He "didn't love me," I "wasn't his family anymore," and he "wouldn't fix our problems even if he could" because he didn't want me at all. So I stopped fighting, signed his divorce papers, sent him off with love and well wishes, and then packed up our kids and left the state. Guess who's wanted me back every since I left and showed him I was happy without him??
After thinking about it for a bit, a question of if he wanted out arises.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
she moved out 8 days ago saturday we formally talked a couple times. txted her thursday asking how the cat was doing. and kept it only about the cat.
no contact since then.
today is sunday and she texted sayin "hey,Just wanted to say hi and i hope you have a good day" in return i said "thats nice of you.Have a great sunday " and she said "you too "
nothing more. this week we are supposed to get together for bank account and divorce papers. no idea what goes through her mind. she seems comfortable about her decision and just trying to stay friendly is my opinion.
She is testing the waters to see if she can get a response out of you. WAS want their freedom to do what they want, but also still want to know you are hanging on pining after them too. Your best bet is to treat her politely but maintain your distance. Don't initate and don't try to keep conversations or texts going. Respond politely only to what is asked and let it drop. Don't go out of your way to be nice. She expects you to be upset and to chase after her. If you don't play into her script, it's going to make her wonder why you're not acting as she expects, and makes you look a lot more interesting and appealing to her too. People want what they can't have.
She is testing the waters to see if she can get a response out of you. WAS want their freedom to do what they want, but also still want to know you are hanging on pining after them too. Your best bet is to treat her politely but maintain your distance. Don't initate and don't try to keep conversations or texts going. Respond politely only to what is asked and let it drop. Don't go out of your way to be nice. She expects you to be upset and to chase after her. If you don't play into her script, it's going to make her wonder why you're not acting as she expects, and makes you look a lot more interesting and appealing to her too. People want what they can't have.
i think she does miss me a little. mostly the old habbits probably.
i wont be chasing after her obviously,it will just push her away.i'm focusing on myself
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