Crap I should proof sometimes. I meant is indicative, not not indicative.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Keeping score and throwing it back in your face is not indicative of someone who has issues. Something just occurred to me - he seems a bit like those in my ex's family...does he have sociopathic/narcissistic tendencies?
I believe something somewhere on here that you shouldn't expect an apology. Hell, my ex never apologized. Learn to forgive people even when they don't apologize for things they have done. You are on a good path, my friend. Keep your head up.
I do think he's a bit of a narcissist, but that could just be trying to explain him.
I can understand not expecting an apology. I stopped expecting them a long time ago. I guess some people are just that way and they don't change to be apologetic, even if apologies mean something to their spouse.
I'm working on not blaming him or holding anger against him. Life is too short and too beautiful to spend it trying to change someone. I'm trying to accept this situation for what it is.
I'm not sure what to do at this point. I think I should no longer initiate contact. I got the working late, can't talk excuse last night, and when I texted, it was brief responses. So he's making it clear he doesn't want to talk. I'll carry on with my own business.
I'm just not sure when to talk to a lawyer. At what point do I actually move forward to divorce? It's so hard to know...
Thank you for your words of motivation, Jeep74. This place has been helping me have courage and to get through these days.
When you figure out when to move forward with divorce let me know! I'm trying to decide that for myself. We can only take so much before our hearts change!!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I do think he's a bit of a narcissist, but that could just be trying to explain him.
Sounds like it.
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I'm not sure what to do at this point. I think I should no longer initiate contact. I got the working late, can't talk excuse last night, and when I texted, it was brief responses. So he's making it clear he doesn't want to talk. I'll carry on with my own business.
Do nothing as far as he is concerned. Carry on with your own self. As hard as it may be, it may be better for you to treat him as if he no longer exists and only communicate when necessary.
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I'm just not sure when to talk to a lawyer. At what point do I actually move forward to divorce? It's so hard to know...
If it were me, I'd go ahead and make an appointment and talk to one. Won't hurt and you will have a lot of questions answered. However, don't just choose the first one you see. Do some research. I did and got a great one...and the ex didn't
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Thank you for your words of motivation, Jeep74. This place has been helping me have courage and to get through these days.
You are most welcome. This place is awesome!
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
When you figure out when to move forward with divorce let me know! I'm trying to decide that for myself. We can only take so much before our hearts change!!
Stay strong
Thanks, bsb. I am trying to keep posting here regularly. It's been helping me sort through my feelings and work on things.
It really is hard to know. I feel like it's so easy to tell a stranger to walk away, but when it comes to yourself, you're plagued with what-ifs.
But how many more days of him making no contact after I keep putting myself out there can I take? I'm not desperate and certainly don't want to give off those vibes.
I will just stop making contact myself and start looking into lawyers..
