Almost a year ago my wife started flirting online with a B list celebrity. He answers back occasionally but clearly does not hold the relationship in the same regard as she does. A few months after this I made a stupid decision and got her pregnant when I did not mean to. She insisted on abortion and I helped her get one. For the next 9 months she denies our marriage, won't have sex with me and generally has completely severed our connection. She is mostly very nice to me day to day and our kids are healthy and happy. They have no idea anything is wrong. Messages to celebrity continue and are becoming more sexual in nature. Celebrity's responses seem to be slowing down. Currently I have agreed not to initiate sex with wife until we talk about our relationship again in January. She will not talk about or explore any of our issues. I am taking it day by day and my attitude is slowly improving.
Lex, I'm sorry but I don't think you see how unhealthy your wife is as an individual. And I don't think you see how co-dependent you've become.
I think I'm getting a feel for both of these things actually. I can't alter the wife's mental state. I am altering myself as quickly as I am able. Not really asking my wife for anything at this point and not really expecting anything from her either. I still have to see it though. My kids are on the line.
Im still waiting to hear what kind of GAL activities you will be doing!
Probably going to up my judo training to 3 times a week in stead of 2. I will go alone to the 3rd class without my son because it is adults only that day. Will see how that goes.
Probably going to up my judo training to 3 times a week in stead of 2.
Im not saying thats bad.... But Id love to see you do something out of your comfort zone. I found the most growth when I was meeting new people and/or trying new things.
You can GAL til the cows come home but ... you still do everything to support and run the household, while your W does nothing but make art pieces for her fantasy lover.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
You can GAL til the cows come home but ... you still do everything to support and run the household, while your W does nothing but make art pieces for her fantasy lover.
Fair.
For me, anyway, it was a lot easier to have my backbone in the home once I gained the self confidence and self esteem from attending GAL activities.
For example, I could try to make some change to my activities in the house, but when my ex would question me, I would back down, because I didnt have the means to stand up.
You can GAL til the cows come home but ... you still do everything to support and run the household, while your W does nothing but make art pieces for her fantasy lover.
It's not quite that extreme. I didn't mean to mis-represent. She is making pieces for him weekly but she is also painting and has a show in progress. Her show is going well and she is probably going to net about $900
Not exactly independence money but she is putting herself into it.
