wife is going through withdrawal

[MJTT]

Sandi great posts. I have been around but not posting as much. I've been extremely busy with work (which is usually the only time I can get on this forum). There are days where my W still feels that she can only be happy if we divorce but the following day feel the opposite. I started to picture my life without her and for the first time since the A I no longer fear being alone. I'm very much happy with myself. While I want our marriage to work I would be ok knowing that we did everything we could in the event that it doesn't work. It's difficult to be in limbo all the time.

[sandi2]

Can you tell us more about what happened after you busted the affair?

[MJTT]

Can you tell us more about what happened after you busted the affair?

Afterwards we were on the brink of divorce (she filed) because she didn't think she could love me again or be happy again. Once it started to sink in how divorce wasn't what she wanted and that she wanted divorce to get back to the affair so she wouldn't feel guilty. She has since felt tremendous remorse for thinking that and feels that I deserve better and she was a bad wife etc....

[Cristy]

Hello MJTT,

Glad to have you back and posting again.

Little compares to the devastation people feel when they discover their spouse has been unfaithful. Couples often struggle to get past intense emotional pain, mistrust, resentment and never ending arguments about the betrayal.

Seemed like she was remorseful and wanting to move your marriage in a more positive direction. Healing from infidelity is achievable for both of you with the right support and tools, even if she is pessimistic.

You are at a very fragile point in this relationship and it would be extremely helpful to know what your next move should be. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

Cristy

Resource Coordinator
The Divorce Busting Center
303-444-7004