I have been married over 40 yrs now. It has been rocky the whole time. Three times I filed for divorce but withdrew before it was final. Four years ago my husband retained an attorney but never served me. He kept the attorney on retainer and the end of this September he filed. I am ready to own my part in my marriage's failure. I was angry most of the time and greatly resented the inequities in our relationship and control over money. I was very passive aggressive when dealing with him. I feel there is little or no hope to save our marriage at this point. I'm not even sure I would want to try anymore. I feel strong most of the time but then a great sadness floods over me. Just hoping for some support. I have followed this forum before and have read Sandy's rules and am trying to use them. I read divorce busting but will reread it.
You may be on moderation now, post in small frequent replies and stay on this thread until you reach 100 posts (for your thread, you can also post on other peoples threads to give support). Especially on this Newcomers forum, where the posting activity is very active, and your posts can quickly fall to the bottom of the page or even several pages down. Keep journaling and asking questions - people will come! Most important - POST!
Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely: Consider this your homework.
