My Girlfriend and my Divorce

[DDJ]

Hey CRW,

What is meant for you will never pass you by. Sometimes we need to sacrifice what we want for the things that we need in our lives.

So do you really need someone in your life, after all those years with your STBXWW?
And if you fear that you are going to fail, then you'ved failed before you started.

[MoveFrwd]

I know you say that you read DR, but did you actually follow through on it?

A lot of my questions in my original post were aimed the same way as this one.

What did you get from the Divorce Remedy book? How are you applying it into your life with STBX and/or GF?

[CRW]

Lol, apparently not very well! I will pick it back up tonight after I put the kids to bed.

Another question. So I have been trying to lay off, let her contact me if she wants, and get my life on track. But yesterday she basically poured her heart out about her break up with her ex, really highlighting her insecurities. How do I lay off, but not make it seem that she can't open up to me about that stuff?

[doodler]

How do I lay off, but not make it seem that she can't open up to me about that stuff?

You fall asleep, or pretend to fall asleep, while she's pouring her heart out. But I'm not sure that specific technique is actually discussed in DR.

[MrBond]

Do you want to stay with her or no? What does your HEAD tell you?

[CRW]

I feel like the time apart from her has actually made my feelings for her stronger.

[MrBond]

That's the limerence talking. If you were on the outside looking at a friend going through this. What would you tell him?

[CRW]

I'd tell him to let out lie until the divorce was settled.

[MrBond]

Then do that. AND give it some time after when all of the emotions are settled. Your kids deserve that rather than being introduced to a number of people. They're probably already having a hard enough time wondering why mom and dad aren't together.

[CRW]

So far so good, the gf texted me Friday and sent me a pic of her little guy last night. I was warm and enthusiastic, but kept my responses brief.