I saw that you posted on my Sticky thread and I am glad that it might help you.
I understand the idea of lurking I did it for several months myself as I absorbed everything I could, it helped me a lot.
But I cannot express the comfort and gratefulness I felt when people would post to me as well.
I hope that you feel safe and comfortable enough to post your story here and make friends with people who want to help and support you in this one of the most difficult times of your life.
So, consider this your rock Madame Butterfly. I hope you land here.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Welcome to the land of MLC! Like Jack, I do hope that you'll feel comfortable in posting a bit. For starters, can you share a little about you, your interests, etc.?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.