Need some support today please

[CT1118]

I put my story in another thread last week. The DB book should be here today in the mail. Wife and I separated in Feb 16 (really April to separate locations). She told me the affair ended in June. Discovered it had not in early July. Feeling like I have two choices...read the book, begin DB right away. And the other choice, confront her now and start distancing. I'm not looking for an answer, just having a tough day in a span of many.

[MoveFrwd]

Feeling like I have two choices...read the book, begin DB right away. And the other choice, confront her now and start distancing.

Im not really sure what you mean by "confront her now and start distancing". I dont really see that as a plan. Confrontation is one thing, but it doesnt necessarily do anything without a plan to bac k it up.

I'd recommend you start by reading the book and starting at step 1. Then we can talk more clearly about your "options".

[EDF]

For what it's worth, that's not really an either/or thing. You should absolutely read the book and start applying DB principles (GAL, detaching from her emotional rollercoaster, etc) regardless of what you choose about confrontation.

Sorry to hear about the rough(er) stretch CT! Just goes with the territory unfortunately.

Also, just a friendly suggestion to stick to one thread for now - it makes it easier for everyone to keep up with your situation and give responses. A mod will probably merge your threads to keep things tidy

[CT1118]

EDF, thank you I will go back to one thread. As I mentioned in my first thread, I am quite new to chat room etiquette