Lol, yep, I made the mistake of trying to let my WW back without her working at it and being willing to do whatever it would take... It didn't even come close to working and just prolonged the pain for me.. Now I'm all or nothing, she shows me everything I want/need or she can go (which is what it looks like). Oh well, I'll move on and be happy, cause I'm not living in fear of an unknown future without her, or the pain of not knowing where we stand, I will only accept an outcome where I know where I stand, give me solid footing with or without her
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Things are really going my way at the moment and it all feels a bit odd to me. First off I received a phone call yesterday offering me the job I went for back in July which came as a massive shock! Turns out the person who beat me to the position has pulled out and I was next in line, I am waiting for a phone call today with the details.
I have also received another phone call today asking me to attend an interview next Friday for a different position I applied for 3 weeks ago. Turns our jobs are very much like buses!
On top of all that I had a great weekend with my D5 and a brilliant couple of evenings with friends, driving lessons are coming along nicely and I've now knocked 6 inches off my waist....... Think I'm going to buy a lottery ticket today
Great to see how much life has turned for you, you have come a long way my friend, positive mental attitude is great for the soul. Any updates with your sitch?
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
With regards to my sitch I've got nothing new. I have provisionally arranged to have my daughters every Wednesday over night while my W goes back to university but that may have to change depending on the new job.
Other then that I have kept a low profile, I've got nothing to say to her nor do I really care what she is doing.
Feels like my W is making more of an effort to reach out to me and initiate contact, trivial things that she could probably find out through a quick internet search or by asking literally anybody else.
We had a brief conversation about Christmas arrangements and she basically told me that I am never allowed to have my D5 over night on Christmas Eve as she doesn't want to spilt up the kids. Her solution to this was for me to sleep at her house for the night so I can wake up with them in the morning and watch them open their presents.
Really not sure what to do or say about the Christmas thing so any opinions would be greatly appreciated.
I don't have any suggestions as to what to actually do on Christmas Day, but it's a long way away and you don't have to decide that now. Just so happens my WW text me the same thing to me a week ago, I just replied "I don't think that would be a good idea"; but I'll really decide if I want to do that the week of Christmas, for now I'll just leave it.
Did you get the job, are you watching your D's when she's in school? Come on man, don't stop updating now, it's been a long ride and it still continues.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Sorry buddy I need to stop myself or my posts will be 30 paragraphs long. Here's an update with me.
I got the job and start on the 31st October, looking forward to getting stuck in to something new and seeing what opportunities it brings.
I am having my D's every Wednesday while the W is at university. I'm having them overnight at my house as I didn't think it was best to sit in my marital home, I would probably start extreme snooping or something.
I've booked a trip to Dublin for a few night in November with a couple of mates, going to put the theory that Guinness tastes better in Ireland to the test.
Oh and one final thing, I've had my first tattoo session on my new sleeve. It was a 6 hour sitting but really pleased with the results.
That's it for me really, trying to get the most out of new found freedom which has been forced upon me.
Now that's a great update, congrats on getting your girls overnight, that is great to hear. Going to Ireland is a dream vacation for me, let me know how the theory works out . Also great to hear about the new job.
Just keep moving forward with your life, one day we may get a real apology for what was done, and possibly the request for reconciliation, but that choice is best decided after we are who we want to be, so just keep heading in that direction.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Sadly my grandmother passed away late Sunday night and it has really hit me like a train. When the news broke and I was at my lowest point the only thing I wanted was a cuddle from my W and for her to tell me everything will be okay.
So along side the grief of losing such an important women in my life, my nan, I feel like I've really taken a massive step back in terms of my W.
