New Thread time. And I think it is a good time for a new thread. It has been almost a full year since my "Tower Moment". And things are looking promising. Still in the rebuilding phase, but the progress I have made so far has shown promise and serves to be inspiring, rather than overwhelming at this point. Still a lot of headaches, but it all feels like it will be worth it and is starting to feel within my reach.
Life is good. I am being asked back for next year at my new job. I am building a case load with my second job. The D is moving forward. Money will be tight, but I can actually plan ahead a bit. Now I just want the divorce over with ASAP, so I can start to stabilize.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
Your sounding better and look not wanting to see the man is ok.
I wouldn't either, and I don't. Xh2 still tell him self that gg is sitting round waiting just waiting for him to snap his fingers and she will run back. She is sitting by the phone harassing xh2 with messages his thought My action was to call his bs and lies about Gear transfer. One message last one over a year ago same thing he was stuffing about on his end of transferring my sons belongings. He said he was in x location and I had actually seen him in y!
Um he chooses not to see bf, but yet he has an ow? and was cheating oh yeah that lie about I met the same day! Mmmm nope not gunna buy an Empire State Building thanks.
Sometimes they tell them self any porkie ,to get by. They play games remember nothing you see or hear might be real.
Just make a plan look after you and make a plan for life without out him.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Yup I knew exactly what you were talking about in last thread! I too lived in both areas. Found advantages and disadvantages to both. And it would be great to meet up with someone going through similar stuff.
Don't you wish, you could go back in time knowing what you do now? It's so frusturating looking back at the process. Having emotions take over actions etc. I understand the advice now but didn't in the heat of emotions.
MWD had a post on her divorce busting facebook site today with great advice. Check it out.
And I agree and I wish I was smarter earlier!
Anyway, I Am so happy that you are doing better, and I understand your desire to stabilize by getting divorce settled. I feel the same way!
Ggrass, they are delusional aren't they. Always about them. Anything we do or say is because we are so hung up. LOL.
JujuB, I wasn't away for the FB page and when I did a search a bunch of options came up. Do you know which page it is? Is it a group that I would have to join or like to get access to (I don't want FB to make it public that I am part of that group).
I am in the old neighborhood again this weekend. I want to walk down into to town and might do so in a little while.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
Something that I have been thinking about a lot...Post divorce and with kids, we are so vulnerable. We don't only have to protect ourselves but our children as well. I never trust going public and prefer anonymity until trust is built. I keep it completely separate, but you never know what friends of friends come up so I am always extra cautious and play it similarly to the forums.
I always like reading your posts because of the wave references. I always have nightmares of tidal waves! Just realized how many pseudo names were similar. So I just made it easier.
I am pissed tonight. In the British way and in the American way. I think I know what it feels like to be a man who holds things in.
I feel that kind of rage.
I think I handled myself beautifully handsomely. I didn't say everything I wish I had said. I held my tongue. And it makes me want to kill someone with my bare hands. I never really understood this feeling of rage before, but I guess that is what men feel when they just listen without speaking. It is unhealthy. I went for a run to wear it off. Didn't quite work. I need to talk to someone, not text or email or post, but to actually speak it.
I regret not saying what I wish I said. I am sure it is better in the long term that i didn't, but in the short term I am absolutely sure that holding it in and feeling this rage took a year off my life. I need some vocal spew. Karaoke might help. I hate that friends only want to text. I need to talk, to feel the words in my brain come up through my throat. I hate being silent!
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
I am pissed tonight. In the British way and in the American way. I think I know what it feels like to be a man who holds things in.
I feel that kind of rage.
I think I handled myself beautifully handsomely. I didn't say everything I wish I had said. I held my tongue. And it makes me want to kill someone with my bare hands. I never really understood this feeling of rage before, but I guess that is what men feel when they just listen without speaking. It is unhealthy. I went for a run to wear it off. Didn't quite work. I need to talk to someone, not text or email or post, but to actually speak it.
I regret not saying what I wish I said. I am sure it is better in the long term that i didn't, but in the short term I am absolutely sure that holding it in and feeling this rage took a year off my life. I need some vocal spew. Karaoke might help. I hate that friends only want to text. I need to talk, to feel the words in my brain come up through my throat. I hate being silent!
That rage was why I ended up here, xh2 was wanting me to pull the pin. He did all those awful things because he wanted me to be very angry. In short he wanted me to leave as he wanted to remain the "nice guy " in his eyes just pretend the cheating wasn't there the hitting the child.
I've now got mil problems, she's turning up just to see what she can learn I'm sure and to be in my face. I'm feeling bloody angry again. Did I wish I had give her a Serve you bet. Did I no, because their story is gg is an angry nasty pasty who was totally in the wrong.
I am not going to play out their story. No way.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
that gg is sitting round waiting just waiting for him to snap his fingers and she will run back. 
and was cheating oh yeah that lie about I met the same day! Mmmm nope not gunna buy an Empire State Building thanks.