Sorry to hijack your thread blueboy, but i've read Zues's story too and I am living those same days. I reckon my STBXWW is busy with 3 men, for money and leisure. She had attempted suicide before i met her so i need to stay ahead of the curve.
Sorry that you had to go through it Zues but your lesson will help us all.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
Be strong. This is just a small example of what I have referred about the WW seeing how things will be without her H. Sometimes it may be in practical matters, and sometimes it may be emotional......but she needs to experience it. Your job is not to play Mr. Fixer, but to stand back and let her figure out what to do. If you help her, then you are enabling her to think you are still available to her.
Time for her to put her big girl panties on!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I ignore every TM and email from my WW about anything close to R speak. I actually told her it's being needy and desperate and REAL MEN don't like those traits in a woman.
It's also a great way to learn patience.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
