As I was saying I still have lots of clothes at my house 6 weeks after W asked me to leave. I'm finding it odd that she has not raised the subject of me collecting them even though she is certain it's over.
Should I take the lead and ask to arrange a time to get my things?
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Kyle, getting your stuff isn't gonna make it easier to let go of the M, but there isn't anything wrong with getting your clothes. I wouldn't make it a mission to take everything so that a statement that is made that it's over, just take what you actually need. No need to close a door that is still cracked open.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
Coconut's posting is spot on. There is nothing wrong w/setting up a time to get your personal belongings such as your clothes at this time. If there are other things that you need and/or required to do your work, then you need to also take them as well. Unless your wife creates an uproar over your stuff still being in the house, I wouldn't make an issue of taking everything at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Okay I'll leave it be for now, if I'm honest I'm not in desperate need for the clothes as I've lost a fair bit if weight since leaving and have decided to treat myself to a new wardrobe anyway
Okay I'll leave it be for now, if I'm honest I'm not in desperate need for the clothes as I've lost a fair bit if weight since leaving and have decided to treat myself to a new wardrobe anyway
Please someone stop me if you feel I'm asking silly questions but I would very much like people's views on something. I've seen a lot mentioned on EA and PA but something my counselor said to me at the weekend has been playing on my mind.
Has anyone got any insight on having a 3rd person in a marriage? Basically for as long as I can remember my W best friend has always been imbedded in our relationship, she came round 3-4 nights a week and would always be talking about the wonderful things she has planned in her life (she is single and lives at home with her parents so has a lot of disposable income). From what I can understand since I left the home this friend has continued to see her at the same, if not an increased level and I wonder if my W head has been turned thinking she could have the same if she releases herself from the shackles of marriage?
Hi Kyle This is all very fresh and raw for you and your looking for answers you may never get. The best advice I was given at your stage was forget all the little signs you are , or think you are seeing because they don't matter.
If your W changes her mind then she will make it very clear.
I've been on here almost two years and I've seen the pattern repeated time and time again. Some of us get spew. Some of us get that we are the greatest person on earth but not for them. We all think our spouses will be too proud to comeback even if they want to. If your Ws pride is more important than her families happiness , then do you really want a W like that ?
Again , please relax back from all decisions or choices until you have had time to accept what's happening and your not reacting from feelings as opposed to facts
Re your clothes , if you want them , get them , if not , don't It's what suits you and if W cares or not , remember it doesn' matter
We all think our spouses will be too proud to comeback even if they want to. If your Ws pride is more important than her families happiness , then do you really want a W like that ?
Thank you for this comment, out of all the craziness of the last 6 weeks this is the most rational thing I think I've heard. This makes more sense then anything. Again thank you.
