She was texting me all yesterday asking about custody arrangements and what to put in the divorce decree. She even sent me some papers to sign and return...which I have no intention of doing.
Moving into my new apartment on the 11th. Working full time so I haven't had much time for anything else. Wife and I are having very little contact and I do not initiate conversation with her.
So, the latest development.. My wife is now resenting me for having a full-time job...because I'm not able to take my son as much as I used to. It's a catch 22. One of the reasons she left is because I didn't have a job. Now that I have a job, she doesn't like my schedule because she feels like I'm not helping her with the responsibility of caring for my son...like it's a choice I'm making. It's like she will crucify me either way. But now that I'm moving out and having to pay for my own apartment..I kind of need to have a full-time job.
So, the latest development.. My wife is now resenting me for having a full-time job...because I'm not able to take my son as much as I used to. It's a catch 22. One of the reasons she left is because I didn't have a job. Now that I have a job, she doesn't like my schedule because she feels like I'm not helping her with the responsibility of caring for my son...like it's a choice I'm making. It's like she will crucify me either way. But now that I'm moving out and having to pay for my own apartment..I kind of need to have a full-time job.
This is selfish WW nonsense pure and simple. SHE is complaining that she has to take care of him. That's pathetic. My WW is getting a couple weeks off at the end of July, and is already talking about putting him in camp for one or BOTH weeks! I'd love to be in her shoes, but she can't handle it.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
My wife is now resenting me for having a full-time job...because I'm not able to take my son as much as I used to. One of the reasons she left is because I didn't have a job.
It's like she will crucify me either way.
Exactly. Thats why you cant base your choices on what will please WW thinking it will change her mind. It doesnt matter what you do, she will find a way to be upset about it.
What is best for you as a father and as a person? Thats usually the best choice.
I have really been missing my son since I started this job. So I am planning on having him this coming weekend, even if I have to pick him up after work and take him back in the morning before work.
My wife works a nice Monday through Friday 9 to 5 job in a nice, air conditioned office. Nights and weekends off. Must be nice. I am a security guard for the largest resort in the county - 13 acres. I walk 12 miles a day in the blazing sun.
