I guess I'm feeling a bit more normal than I have been since all this crazy stuff started. My mom wants to fill up my gas tank and then take me to dinner. Will be nice to get out for a while and then maybe take an evening hike later.
Great job in recognizing that you are feeling a bit more normal. That is really sweet of your mom to offer to fill up your gas tank and take you to dinner.
Did you pick up DB or DR at the library yet? The first chapter is here on the website if you haven't started already.
Focus on being the best Shawn and Dad that only a fool would leave. Good luck with your job search. I'm not sure that you need to respond to her texts asking how the job search is going. Go ahead and respond in a cordial, neighborly fashion regarding anything related to your son. Otherwise, the best thing to do might be to do nothing. Not rude, just detaching.
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I landed an interview for a great job tomorrow. Thoughts and prayers please. I think what's going to happen eventually is I am going to have a good job and I am going to be making a life for myself. And she will notice.
So, I got the job. Start next week. Full-time. If the fact I landed a full-time job is changing her feelings, she isn't indicating it.
That's great you got a job! Don't worry about what she thinks, YOU have a good job. You have a son, he needs his Daddy to bring home the bacon. That's priority number 1.
Have you picked up the DR book? I've started rereading it after I've had my little epiphany about who I've become. It's really helpful and a great guidebook. Work on yourself and play with your son when you have him. What do you plan on doing with him for Father's day?
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
Unfortunately, he will be back with her on Father's Day. My first Father's Day without my family. I wish I could be inside her head and know what she's thinking. She used to tell me "the opposite of love is not hate. It's apathy." And that's how I feel she thinks of me now. Doesn't love me or hate me. Simply feels nothing at all. She hasn't even called or texted to check on him which is out of character for her. Of course...her behavior in general has been out of character through all this. I fear that maybe I never truly knew her.
Funny, that's basically what my W is saying about me. She's "just now realized" we were never meant to be together.
Maybe. Maybe it's true you never really knew her, or maybe the "real her" just coming out now. Or maybe everyone is crazy right now and rewriting the history of their relationship. The great part is, either way, the path for you is the same, right? Keep on GAL and be a good father
Me: 34, W: 39 T: 10y, M: 8y D 4, D 6 2nd M for both BD: 4/22 status: separate beds, GAL, hopeful
Unfortunately, he will be back with her on Father's Day. My first Father's Day without my family. I wish I could be inside her head and know what she's thinking. She used to tell me "the opposite of love is not hate. It's apathy." And that's how I feel she thinks of me now. Doesn't love me or hate me. Simply feels nothing at all. She hasn't even called or texted to check on him which is out of character for her. Of course...her behavior in general has been out of character through all this. I fear that maybe I never truly knew her.
That's a shame she won't let him be with his Daddy on Father's Day. It's a selfish WW action for sure. Actually, when it comes to checking up on S, you're in a better spot than me. Mine has been using me for weeks to keep tabs on S so she can make separation as easy as possible on her. No more. You can't dump your family and expect it to be easy.
WW's behavior is sheer lunacy until they feel the consequences of their actions. Read up on Sandi's WW threads, it really helped me.
The odds she's apathetic are low. Apathetic people don't try to hurt you on purpose. Enjoy the time with your boy, don't worry about her (this isn't easy as she's still his Mom).
It's about to hit a month for me. I'm in a better place than I ever thought I would be. I love her, but I don't need her to be happy. I have my S, I'm GAL and becoming a better man than ever. It's a hard road to get here, and the more I read the threads on here I know I'm still a beginner. This is the most difficult thing you'll do, you've gotta be tough.
Keep fighting! We're here to help you!!
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
Getting a job, especially a full time job is a very good accomplishment. Congratulations. If nothing else it has to reduce the stress of what you're going through.
M 55 W 52 MR 32 T 34+ D29 BD May 8, 2016 - She moved out ILYBNILWY May 15 (Through email) No EA/PA August 23 - DB used against me in every way Divorce July 18, 2017 - Life is getting better every day
Looking at a small apartment. It's going to be weird moving from a 4 bedroom house into a 2-bedroom apartment..but it's all I can afford. Looks like most of my stuff is going to have to go in storage for a year or so, until I can get back on my feet.
