Good morning everyone, hope all of you enjoyed your weekend.
I'm curious, how many of you were left for someone else vs. left for a family? Here's what I mean...
My XW not only left me for another man, but his family. Even before I moved out of the house, she was giving my boys presents from the OM as well as his parents and extended family. My boys regularly attend his family functions, his children's school events, bday parties, etc. My XW parents and his parents are close friends and this almost feels like a coup.
My XW and I got into a slight argument this past weekend bc she was saying that S5 had to go to OM daughter's dance recital instead of going to a bday party for a kid in his class. That sort of thing worries me because I'm afraid that he will miss out on big part of HIS life because she's too concerned about him being a prop in hers. That refers back to being left for a new family. Her and OM are very concerned about "presenting" their new family to everyone...his friends, her friends, etc.
As crazy as this sounds, I'd have a much easier time if she left me for another guy, but to pop my head off and replace an entire family is so disturbing to me.
Am I the only one who has experienced this?
As of December 2023 Me: 45 XW: 43 S13 S10 ILYBINILWY: 11/14/2014 OM: 11/14/2014 D process: 12/14/2014 D final: 04/2015
Hi Mvg, I'm sorry to hear that - it must be hard to experience. I always think it pays to take things steady in terms of getting to know & blending families....doesn't look like your XW and OM are heeding that piece of advice.
No, this hasn't happened in my sitch - but my H ultimately did say he left because he wanted a 'new family.' His S is now 15 and he wants to start over with a much younger woman and new family - do the swim lesson/school plays etc that he feels he missed out on.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
You know, I never thought a lot about the OM and his family's role in the situation. My situation is a bit unusual so I won't go into detail here, but my wife is in an EA, and she knows his very well. I feel like his family has played an active role in our divorce because they've always supported her and believed everything she said.
My sons are old enough that they can have a say in what they're exposed to; they don't like the OM or his family. They think the OM is creepy.
Along the way, there were many times when I felt like the OM's family was more important to my wife than her own family. Yuck!
