Jim, Sorry to hear you are losing the house. Unfortunately that is to be expected with your WW colluding with the buyers. Ultimately, it is just money and you will make it back, but in the short term it does muddy the waters. Good luck on the psychologist results. I hope it is different for your state, but in my state it seems everything is stacked against us dads. We are assumed to be the "guilty" one and the levers always push against our side. :-(
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
I am actually ok now. Let my anger flow through me earlier in the day, cried, and vented.
I found a few 3 bedroom condos way closer to my family (10 min drive vs 30) which I will be able to afford. There is an elementary school within a 4 minute walk and a daycare within a 1 minute walk. The daycare has a nice curriculum for my two youngest. I am excited about that.
This is assuming that the decision will be made in my favor for custody. Still hopeful.
On another positive note S6 who was acting out actually smiled and gave me a 5 minute hug last night! I was so happy and relieved because he has been struggling. I was glad to see him happy.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I am sorry about the decision in court, and what a betrayal from W. Did the buyers know what she did?
Very happy to hear that you feel in one way free to move on now, it sounds like, and are excited about plans for the future. It might in one way be good with a fresh start and new surroundings.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
Sorry to hear that JimKao, shitty deal. Hope the custody goes in your favor. Keep your head up. Your doing the right thing by your kids, while she has to live with herself. Money can't buy a clear conscience. That's something most of these WW will have to face one day, although I suspect some never do. unfortunate really.
Me 40 W 35 Kids 2 S6 D3 T 10 yrs M 8yrs BD 11Mar16
My guess is that the buyers were colluding on this. STBXW and the buyer hugged after we came out of court.
So I am sure STBXW made me out to be the horrible person in this whole scenario.
Their L who just happened to be the father of the buyers said made this whole story up about me rejecting their offer last year when it was a mutual agreement between STBXW and I last year to reject offer.
I guess I need to learn to be more selfish from now on when I deal with people and not trust so easily.
Buyers are friends with many neighbors in the sub. I am sure that one of these days they will see consequences to their actions also.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I'm glad you found some condos that you can afford and are large enough for you and your boys. Being close to school and daycare as well as your family is even better!! You've got to prepare yourself for both outcomes. Even if you don't gain the custody that you'd like, you will still need a place for yourself and your boys.
Thanks all for the support. I have the boys tomorrow after work and this weekend. Plan on going to see the condo this weekend and have a nephew's birthday party to go to on Saturday.
I guess the rest of the weekend will be sorting and sifting through things that will need to be thrown away before we have to move.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
Forgot to add, went to IC today. Talked about psych eval. IC says that WW is manipulative and the damage she is doing to boys is hurting them.
I actually asked if I was the narcissistic sociopath in this M and IC said that WW is definitely trending towards a sociopath and using the kids as pawns.
Felt better after the discussion with IC. IC thinks that WW will actually have a good chance of going NC with me and boys if she doesn't get custody.
Sad part is I just thought about how much money has been spent on L's and this D. I could have taken the whole family to Europe for a month long vacation, oh well. Live and learn.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I'm happy that you have some good condo choices. They seem well-positioned to launch you and your boys into a good future.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
Feeling some anxiety today. I have to see STBX with the exchange of the boys today.
Texts from today:
STBX: I'm expecting you around 4/4:30 to get the boys off the bus right?
Me: Car is ready today. I have to go get the car and will be home after I get some groceries.
She just wants to go play with OM.
I could give 2 sh*ts what time she ends up back in Toronto. Should I go home early and document that she left early or do I just go home when it suits me and get my tasks complete?
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
