I'm just over 5 months out from Dday, my H is a Vanisher in the throes of a MLC. I have read DR & I was seeing an IC until she was very unprofessional and literally said to me "I told you so."
I'm 46, H is 39, almost 40, no kids, married almost 8 yrs, together almost 10. Long story short, my H told me he was divorcing me over the phone while away at school for his job, his an Army CPT. I've seen him twice in 5 months, we don't talk any more, VERY limited texting or, as in maybe 2 a month. We live thousands of miles apart, literally opposite sides of the country. I don't call him, I stopped doing that months ago since he wouldn't bother to pick up. 'm certain he's in MLC, even the things he has said to me follow the MLC script. I have no idea if there is now OW, up until now there has been signs. He has lingering affects of deploying to Iraq & Afghan, he admitted as much to his chaplain, but never to me. His father was diagnosed with what we all were told was Stage 4 cancer, but it turned out much later to be Stage 2. His father was just recently diagnosed with metastasized cancer from the Stage 2 cancer he already had.
I'm currently waiting for the financial settlement, then if we can agree to it, we can be divorced almost immediately since our 90 day waiting period is over.
I don't want to get divorced, but can't seem to stop this train that's barreling down the tracks at me. I'll get more into my story, it's just incredibly painful to get out all at once.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for here, people to commiserate with, more understanding of what is going on in or not going on in my marriage, some sort of guidance...I'm not sure but I'm hopeful to find out.
M: 46 H: 39 Together 10 years, married almost 8 years No kids D day 11/23/15 GALing at this point
