the continuation of my ramblings, reflections and musings:
so, we had MC today. she is agreeing to go back. so, i'm considering this a productive day. then again, any day you're moving forward and not back is a productive day, right? the MC did think we're not a lost cause... so i'm pretty pleased with todays events.
collin, it's great to hear that your W is going to go to MC. I hope you continue to grow, change and get yourself as straight as possible to help your W through this process too. It's not going to be easy, but this is progress. Use your time wisely!
Me: 58 Her: 59 Kids: 0 Dog: 1 ILYBINILWY: 9/15 D Bomb: 1/11/16 (found out filed) Verified OM: 1/11/16 Moved out: 1/11/16 (thought it was temporary)
Thanks for the support guys. You know it's really unfortunate that we have to all go through this, but if we do, glad we don't have to go through it alone. Going through something like this can be so isolating.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
My W had found some people to help her move her stuff out. So, I thought I was in the clear as far as being asked to help her move. Well today she said that one of her coworkers is concerned with her having these people move her stuff and knowing where she lived. After that she asked me if I was still against helping her move. So, it's one of those things where I'm derned if I do and derned if I don't. I don't want to help her leave, but I don't want to ruin any good will and potential reconciliation by being a butt about it either.
One of her biggest complaints is my selfishness. So should I just suck it up, put my big boy pants on, get over it and help her?
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.
No, let her figure it out herself. She's the one that's leaving the marriage.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
No, let her figure it out herself. She's the one that's leaving the marriage.
Don't help her. I boxed up my WW stuff and had it waiting in the garage. She was shocked when I told her it was in the garage waiting for her. Maybe you can do something like that so you don't have random people walking around in your house (that's why I did it)
today has been rough. nothing really happened. just one of those days where i just wanted to lay on the couch and sleep all day. i have days where things feel promising. then ones like today where i get this overwhelming feeling my life is falling apart.
this post has no point...i just wanted to whine a little bit.
M:36 W:31 D:12 M: 8/9/10 ILYBNILWY/"want space": 2/14-ish/16 W moved out 5/24/16.