Another update Still sleeping / focusing well. Thought is was too good to be true but still seems like everything is good. Enjoying my independent single life more each day. Used to have Monday nights as a "chill" night for a movie or something, but filled that night up too so...I have activities every night of the week, and all day on every weekend.
Need some thoughts / opinions on something though. Wife was supposed to bring paperwork over spring break while I was off work. She never got to since her work schedule is tough. I asked for the papers at every interaction now, and she says she is getting them (she already had them drawn up, she just has to pick them up so we can sign). So, three weeks later, still no paperwork. She's living with OM now but still paying for her apartment because "I'm still married" (her words). I know she does work very late hours most days (until 8PM many nights), but she showed up to drop the dogs off Monday at 5PM wearing gym clothes and heading to the gym. I assume she got off work in time to get home / change / load puppies up and bring them over so....would have been a great time to pick up divorce papers for me to sign. I thought it would be more of a priority to her / OM, they are house shopping together so we kind of need to get our divorce official. Should I just ask where the papers are so I can go by and sign them and get them sent off? I am ready to be fully single at this point but feel like I'm in some kind of limbo. I really want to be legally divorced before I consider dating or anything like that. Any thoughts / suggestions?
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M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
Almost another month now, and I have papers, but can't sign them (petitioner must sign with witness / notary before I can sign). Looks like everything will go through just fine, but just not on my preferred timeline. I did order two kayaks that should be here Friday and have my whole summer vacation booked. 7 weeks straight of travel / state parks / kayaking / biking / hiking. I am mostly camping, so hopefully will be able to sleep well. It was eye opening when I scheduled my summer trips, it was the first time I didn't have to consider my wife's schedule / preferences in 15 years. I think I could get pretty used to this single thing. Hopefully she'll get the papers signed soon, I think it will feel even better when I'm legally divorced.
M 43 W 45 M 10.5 T 15 S 26 D 17 (previous relationships) ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D Confirm affair 1/10/16 W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)
Still sleeping / focusing well. Thought is was too good to be true but still seems like everything is good. Enjoying my independent single life more each day. Used to have Monday nights as a "chill" night for a movie or something, but filled that night up too so...I have activities every night of the week, and all day on every weekend.