My story JB910 (2)

[Jb9140]

It finally hit me this morning. Why would I possibly move back out. I just moved out for 4 weeks and came back because I felt bad. If my wife wants to move out and take the kids, that's on her. She should know that taking them out of there home is a bad idea, but it will be her bad idea not mine.

[keefa]

Jb9140 feel for you. Listen to the regulars posting on here. Trust them. I was sceptical, it works. Your now is not your forever. If you get 10 mins, read my story. It is current and I hit the stage you are at very recently. It will show you the stages I have gone through, what has worked, what hasn't, and the common themes that seem to re-occur the world over. Get legal advice over children. and I can't emphasise enough to keep posting and take strength from the absolutely amazing people on here.
Hang tough my friend. It will change.

[Jb9140]

Keefa thanks. I'll start reading up on your story today.

[CWOL]

It finally hit me this morning. Why would I possibly move back out. I just moved out for 4 weeks and came back because I felt bad. If my wife wants to move out and take the kids, that's on her. She should know that taking them out of there home is a bad idea, but it will be her bad idea not mine.

Good job getting to this point! Don't be a doormat, stand up for yourself and your kids.
She can't just take the kids out of the marital home without a court order. Talk to a divorce lawyer soon, they should give you at least a free consultation first.

[Jb9140]

WOW!! for the first time in a long time, I'm starting to feel really pumped. I absolutely tired of taking my wife's [censored]. Some may think I'm reaching the anger stage, but I'm really not angry. I'm just sick and tired of taking her [censored] and asking for another helping by my wrong actions. If she wants a divorce then so be it. That's her decision and she can live with the results. I'm sure this feeling will change shortly, but I'm going to ride this pink cloud as long as I can.

[Jb9140]

Is it just me or does a EA seem more damaging than a physical affair? I think I could he over the physical part a lot easier then the emotionl.

[CWOL]

Is it just me or does a EA seem more damaging than a physical affair? I think I could he over the physical part a lot easier then the emotionl.

I don't think my WW had a PA but I do think a PA is much more damaging mentally than an EA. (I don't know what to believe with her any more, though). With PA I've heard most betrayed husbands have a mental image of his wife having sex with another man. I haven't had to deal with that so far, small comfort that is. I do believe PA is much harder to recover just because of those visual images.

Any veterans want to comment?

[Vapo]

Both are pretty much fcuk uppable. On one side, the mental images are def. there and on the other side the knoledge that someone else is occupying their hearts is equally damaging, if not more...

So, I'm calling it a tie...

[Jb9140]

I just feel that physical is just biological. Don't get me wrong. I don't want that image in my head either. It just seems the EA is more betrayal of trust then the physical.

[CWOL]

I just feel that physical is just biological. Don't get me wrong. I don't want that image in my head either. It just seems the EA is more betrayal of trust then the physical.

I was able to "hear" my WW's conversation with OM right after I discovered her secret plot to file for D while she gaslighted me. That burned a hole into my memory of her, the things she said about me and my family. I think that is the reason why DB tells you NOT to snoop on your WS. It was very painful to hear her talking to OM about me. I still have that audio image burned into my head, hurts even as I type this two months later.