Getting out of in house S (8)

[Jb9140]

I made a big mistake moving to a friends couch, but at the time I was emotionally drained. I guess I needed to recharge. She has told me straight out she wants a divorce. At this point in the game, I miss my kids and want to sleep in a bed. Spare room bed, but hey a bed. One thing I'm definitely not going to tolerate any more is her disrespect of me as a man.

[kyrie]

Been thinking a lot about separation... specifically, me insisting on one. Is in house any advantage over not? In my case, I'm thinking not in house is better but maybe there's more to it. What do you all think? (sorry, don't mean to hi-jack ... it's not clear from your experience here).

[vise82]

hey

I think the in house separation is done because of finances. Or how bad the one initiating the S wants to get apart from the other Spouse.

Seeing as in house did not work for me I would say avoid it if you can.

[daybyday]

In house is very stressful for both and nothing much can be done to better situation when both are stressed. JMHO.

[kyrie]

So it sounds like it exacerbates things really. I get that... as for financial, well, if I kick H out he has no real finances of his own. How do you deal w/that? Split things up? make it his problem, not mine?
Ugh.
So icky.

[Maximus]

Hi JB,

Sorry to see you in this situation.

As you probably know ... difficult to gain her respect from a friends couch.

Start claiming back what is yours step by step.

Peace

Max

[Jb9140]

Yes, it's starting to become more clearer to me. That this is becoming more about respect than the marriage at this point.

[Vapo]

Jb,

you are getting it.

Easy does it...

[Jb9140]

Wow. She is super pissed. I also stopped by target and bought some items I've wanted for awhile and set the stuff up in the room.

[Jb9140]

Got in major fight. This did not go well on the surface, but to tell the truth I'm more determined to GAL then ever. I'm just blown away on her version of our marriage. She says such over the top version of past events. I told her to go ahead and file. I'm almost at the point where I really don't see any reason to continue this. She is a totally different person. I know I've got a part in this, but what she has become is unrecognizable.