a weird series of events at the end of my old thread has me doing much more thinking than I have been doing lately...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Yes azz, it has stopped me dead in my tracks at this time. I felt great about everything happening in life the way it was and this was an unexpected curveball! Nothing is my plan right now until I have more time to comprehend things and possibly try to pick up on anything else XF has to say. I won't be bringing it up but I do think I have to pay close attention to what she says?
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Just stopping by to journal/update my sitch a bit. The new girl actually got ahold of me late last week after being MIA for over a week. Her story checks out but I am being very cautious. XF and myself have have very pleasant interactions for a few weeks now, up until last evening. I have no idea why but she turned very cold and snippy with me once again.
On the GAL front, I'm busier than ever. Had a hard time even finding time to make it to a super bowl party last night. Saturday was also jam packed with quite a few different things. I get S4 back this evening so I'm defiantly looking forward to spending some time with him over the next few days.
Currently in a holding pattern as far as new girl and XF go, I still don't know what I want so I'm going to make no moves either direction... Just be civil with both until further notice.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Clarifying a little, my side of interactions with XF are still calm and collected, it is only on her side that they have gone sour.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
she cycles and she is on the border of a nervous breakdown. Stop trying to make sense of it, because there is no sense to me made. You know there is not. Just listen to you inner voice (AKA gut feeling). Do thread carefully with the new girl, you are not ready for a new relationship yet. Got feeling, pay close attention to it. You are a grown man and you do know yourself best.
Defiantly treading lightly. I personally thought I was ready but the confusion is still there. With new girl, it has been nothing physical whatsoever.
With XF, I'm not saying all the spewing was justified, but I usually could pin where it came from. Whether rumors, misunderstandings or something else... I could typically pin the source of it, usually it wasn't me but it was aimed at me. This time it came out of thin air.
Gut feeling at this point is do nothing and figure myself out. New girl is aware of my whole situation and where I stand, is perfectly fine just being a friend at this point.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Just stopping in to say hi and journal. This week I've been killing it at work. S4 has been a bit under the weather so our evenings have been kinda slow. Still having fun, he is just more interested in tv and cuddles than going full throttle like we usually do. In the personal life, I still am holding the nothing is something pattern. Not much of any contact with XF. Letting her stew on her thoughts. Contact with new girl has been steady, but turned back a notch.
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
Well it's been a little while since I've been here or posted. That has been with reason... XF went back to an R talk a few days ago. Didn't get much into detail as to what she was thinking but asked a bunch of questions.
I left that sit and last night it was brought up again at S4 swap. Said that she has heard about new girl (gotta love small towns). She had heard some true, some not. I didn't verify anything except that I was indeed talking to her and that we had hung out. XF said that hearing that I was possibly no longer available, made her realize the amount that she messed up. Told me she is not mad, she knew it was coming sometime and knows it's nobody's fault but her own. BUT, then proceeded to talk about what we would have to do to give this a shot. I listened, corrected where needed (if it were to happen, she wouldn't set all the terms).
I really don't know how I feel about any of this at this point. There are a few things I would have to see happen before jumping back in. Even then, I still don't know. Trust has been broken. I trust everybody until they give me a reason not to. After that, it's not easy to earn back...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home
