asambandha

[mutatio]

My first thread was titled "Avidya" which is a Sanskrit word whose literal meaning is ignorance, delusion, unlearned and unwise.

Here is a link to Avidya:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2597117&page=1

My second thread was titled "Vidya" which is also a Sanskrit word whose literal meaning is correct knowledge or clarity.

Here is a link to Vidya :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2601644&page=1

My third thread was titled "Sati-sampajanna" means a clear understanding of reality appearing in the present moment.

Here is a link to Sati-sampajanna :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2607958&page=1

My fourth thread was titled "Panna-vimutti" which means deliverance through wisdom.

Here is a link to "Panna-vimutti" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2614294&page=1

My fifth thread was titled "titikSate" whech means suffer with courage or patience, bear with firmness, endure patiently.

Here is a link to "titikSate" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2621248&page=1

My sixth thread was titled "kavikratu" which means one who possesses wisdom or sacrifices, full of discernment, having wise designs, having the insight of a wise man or fully wise insight.

Here is a link to "kavikratu" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2626380&page=1

My seventh thread was titled"zokasantaptamAnasa" which means one whose mind is consumed by sorrow.

Here is a link to "zokasantaptamAnasa" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2630847&page=1

My eighth thread was "Ksanti" which means exercising patience toward behavior or situations that might not necessarily deserve it and is seen as a conscious choice to actively give patience as if a gift, rather than being in a state of oppression in which one feels obligated to act in such a way.

Here is a link to "Ksanti" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2635276&page=1

My ninth thread was "paryutsukI bhavati" which is a Sanskrit word whose literal meaning is be sorrowful or regretful.

Here is a link to "paryutsukI bhavati" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2637883&page=1

My tenth thread was "siddhiyatrika" which is a Sanskrit word whose literal meaning means one who makes a pilgrimage to learn magical arts or to gain good luck or beatitude.

Here is a link to "siddhiyatrika" :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2642255&page=1

The name I have chosen to title this thread is the Sanskrit word "asambandha".

asambandha is a sanskrit word which means non-connection, absence of congruity or connection.

[mutatio]

I like this parable and wanted to share it.

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, when two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other
frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep it was, they told the two frogs that they were as
good as dead.
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other
frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what
the other frogs were saying and gave up. She fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as she could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at her to
stop the pain and just die. She began jumping even harder and finally made it out. When she got out, the
other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to them that she was deaf - she thought they
were encouraging her to jump out of the hole the entire time.

I will turn a deaf ear to the parts of me that want to give up and will keep trying to be the best man I can be.

[ARose]

Cute story, Mut, but I thought the "ass" part of the word was going to go in a whole new direction.......

I am bad. Sorry.

[ARose]

also not wearing my glasses so I thought it was "assambahdha". Don't mind me, the edit button is gone and I am stir crazy. Plus plain crazy.

[Vanilla]

Another frog story

A frog was in a well and another frog looked down the well and said come join us in the sunlight. The frog in the well said "but this is my home, I am used to it"

V

[mutatio]

I like that one V, there's some meat on those words. Nothing new here. Trying to make the most of each day and improve what I can.

Thanks for stopping by ladies, always a pleasure.

PS. Fo, it looks like that at first glance.

[dday]

Mu, sometimes no news is good news. Limbo stinks, I know. But decisions aren't always for the best either.

Be well!

[mutatio]

Something clicked tonight. Words I have heard here many times. I have only thought these words. I have said these words but have not felt these words. Words you all know. I must work on myself,evolve, grow, become well balanced. Not to pursue my wife. I get it know, I feel it.

I have said those words so many times. As a instruction, as a next step, as a wish. That will never do it. I had to detach enough to understand what it means. I want now to evolve to my greatest potential. For me, so she can see me at my finest, not to be something she may desire. Authentic me, at the top of my game. It's important to me, for her to see me transforming, not as important is that she chooses me over divorce.

I don't see how anything else will work. I am so happy to be detached enough to feel it. I think newbies struggle with the process not being fast enough but until you realize you can simply let go of your problem, it is hard to make progress.

I think my struggle to post here was a indicator that I was transitioning to this new plateau. I had nothing really to say anymore about my wife this, my wife that. I am now free, free to be me.

[dday]

Sounds like progress! And really, we owe it to our kids and ourselves to be the best that we can be. If WW takes notice and comes running back, so much the better!

You're great anyway mu. Keep on polishing yourself!

[Vanilla]

OK

So why say I must do this, I must do that?

Putting it that way causes resistance.

I recommend you say I choose to do this and I choose to do that, the resistance will leave you.

So you chose to detach.

V